Boyfriend + my family = ANXIETY
My boyfriend of 8 years now has so many problems with my immediate family. My family has no problems with him and the problems he mentions to me, I never see. I can never feel comfortable or worry less when my boyfriend is around my family. I’m constantly worried about what everyone else does, says, or looks like. I mentioned how I feel to my boyfriend, but nothing’s changed. When he brings up these issues, it’s never done in a polite way. It’s usually aggressive or angry. I don’t know how to go about this and I don’t know who to talk to for help. Any advice?
I'm not sure if I understand your text correctly, but if he's telling you issues in an aggressive angry way, maybe he's very emotional about it. Sometimes we get angry at issues, because they frustrate us and others only see that we're raging.
I see where you’re coming from. I think that since he’s coming at it aggressively, it makes me defensive and we end up arguing more than we probably should.
Have you both tried to calm down and maybe talk about that issue? It's okay to not talk out that issue immediately, mostly because we're still in rage and emotional. Just ask to talk about that issue calmly and logical when you both have a clear mind.