I have to change my bad behaviors or I will lose the loml

I understand as i have been in your place.

I found it was underlying things that irritated me and if came out as me finding issues with even the smallest item and the bitterness and toxic reactions grow fast like mold. I had to do a lot of self reflection on my own issues and found many of the items (his) i really was bothered by i had not told him etc ......

we still are day by day and i have not let go of all but i feel better finding a source..... it is very very hard to overcome the situation of nit picking and such.