Jealousy & Low-Self Esteem/Insecurity problems
Hello guys!
I really really need your help.
i am in a relationship for almost 1 year and we love each other so so much and none of us would ever cheat or flirt with someone else. BUT I have really big problems with the jealousy. I don’t know if this is coming from the past or just from my low self esteem.
my boyfriend is really really handsome and he looks different than the other guys from my country because he is not from my country, so all the time everywhere we go, girls stare at him or try to get his attention. and for me, the problem is the fact that i am more anxious when we are around pretty and hot girls. I start to be so anxious that these girls will look at him and maybe by mistake he will look back and they will think he is interesed.
I also feel so anxious when pretty girls are around because if he would look at them, this would make me feel so bad and insecure, and i know it s not normal to feel like that, but i din’t know how to change my mindset.
i know he loves me and he doesn t want any other girl, but i m still so insecure when i m around pretty girls.
i tried to find a good psychologist to talk about this but i didn t find and I can’t really afford therapy because for sure this would mean many sessions of therapy.
i really need your help, thank you so much!
Hey,
Experiencing jealousy and having insecurities is normal. Pretty sure everyone does. I do too : )
Keep your head up. It sounds like you’re not trusting your boyfriend as much. How about opening up to your him about your worries? Have you tried that? Maybe you’ll find out that he could feel the same way as you!
If you are really keen to work on yourself, I suggest you to watch ‘QOVES studio’ on YouTube: they’re all about self improvement.
Also, being pretty isn’t the only thing that will keep the relationship on going. Sure it can start a relationship, but other factors such as personality and shared interests are also required to be contributed in a long term relationship.
I hope this makes you feel a bit better. I am also working on myself and my self esteem so let’s all grow together!
Yes, i ve talked with him a lot about it and we both know that this is a problem that has to be solved but he is so kind and patient because he loves me so i m trying my best to be confident but i need some help🥺
thank you so much for recommendation! For sure i ll start watching this channel❤️❤️
and also thanks a lot for your answer, that s true, beauty is not everything but unfortunately for me even just a short look from my boyfriend to other pretty girl is so bothering that really gets me angry and i want to know how to change this mindset😭
Confidence is much sexier than jealousy. You snagged the hottie! You go girl! He must think you’re a catch too. You have something they don’t.
Thank you so so much!!!❤️❤️
@gingerkind26
I think a certain degree of jealousy is normal but when people focus on it and let it be a daily issue you are giving that feeling more power then it should...
It is simple a connection that is good .......is not challenged by any good looking person that even flirts more then looks your way...... like another poster said YOU are the one he chose why are you questioning it..... i will tell you letting this grow and keep bringing it up will only create a crack in the relationship.
