My ex broke up with me because of his mental health problems
Ever since he broke up with me I've felt that the other half of me died. I've been feeling lonely and I'm not even alone. He said he want me by his side but he is having this guilt of making me suffer when I'm with him.
He's depressed with his home environment. He just graduated bachelor's and would continue masteral but he failed the entrance on the university he wanted. This made him stay on his home and study for a year to retake the exam next year. And his parents are considering him as a failure making him drained and feeling depressed. Ever since I knew about that I would constantly assure him that I would always be here for him and he wouldn't be a burden to me. But his sickness is making him think otherwise, hence, considered to break up with me.
I was feeling so bad for him that I respected his decision and I let him go. He was having some suicidal thoughts before the breakup and I'm too anxious since then till now if I should check up on him from time to time because I knew he shouldn't be alone at this point. His parents are Asian and don't give a fuck with mental health making him not considering getting into therapy. What should I do? Should I insist on being close to him? Should I give him space for some months? How many months? Help me please.
@easyBalloon6341
Hello!
I can tell how much you care about it. It's hard knowing how to be there for our loved ones when they are struggling with mental health. I can understand that you wish to be close to him. It does sound like he wants his space. I think it's important to listen to our loved ones needs and wants in these times. Although, I can see how it would be tough when all we want to do is help. A lot of empathy, understanding, and patience can go a long way<3💛💫
Hi, thank you for kind words. Yes, I really want to be by his side but his wish contradicts it. I also accepted the fact that he needs to be alone for him to grow. Now, I'm working on myself too to improve and heal by myself and it's tough but I hope I could do it.
++ After a week of being apart, yesterday, I messaged him to check how he's doing. And on what I could see, he's getting better. He built a new routine, he involved himself on physical activities，he's staying away from his phone, he's continuing to study for the entrance exam in his dream college, and he's trying to gain weight too. This made me feel that he's healing and growing and I am so proud of the progress that he have made. The conversation made my heart at peace and it made me think that I should also work on myself alone too and have peace with myself.
@easyBalloon6341 That is up to you.
Only you can make that choice.
I wish you the best of luck.
I hope things work out for you.
@calmMango9611
Thank you for your kind words, I hope what's for the best.