Porn
Is it unreasonable to ask your partner to stop watching porn if it makes you uncomfortable? My partner and I have had discussions about him watching porn a lot and we sat down one day and I asked if it was something he could stop doing. His response was that, because he is more or less addicted, that it would be very hard for him. We had a long tough discussion and after a while I avsked that he at least tries to watch it less with the goal that one day he wont watch at all. And then we left it at that. And today I asked him how it had been going expecting some progress (we talked about it 3 weeks ago) but barely any progress from his side. I asked if he could set goals to get somewhere. I.e in a month you watch it 4 times a week instead of every day. But he doesn't want that because he doesn't think he'll be able to give it up. Is it unreasonable for me to want him to stop watching, should I feel uncomfortable?
If you are feeling uncomfortable then remember it can't be unreasonable. I think he don't want to reduce his addiction and he don't want , you can't do any thing. Better if you stay aeay from him by telling him all the truth.
I have a friend whose husband had a porn addiction. He wanted to get help and stop, for himself and his marriage. With the support of a counselor and his wife, he was able to stop. I believe he must want to stop and then be willing to seek help. It is a real addiction and should be treated as such.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with how you are feeling. Its totally reasonable. Unfortunately, if he isnt willing to change.. There isnt much you can do..