The Saviour Complex in Relationship

Those with a savior complex are caring to the point that their behavior and actions are heroic. It’s like caring and compassion on the next level. They constantly try to find solutions for other people’s problems, Continually trying to fix others, sacrificing a lot of time, energy, or money. They may go as far as to sacrifice their own needs, comfort and safety

They often fall into toxic relationships and build a codependency relationship. They would endure the emotional pain because more than love and attachment, they also have a great sense of guilt and shame to leave the unhealthy relationship.

People who naturally have high compassion tend to have this trait. If you see these character traits in you or struggling with this issue, here are some friendly reminders:

• You matter. Your happiness equally matters.
• You don’t have to fix anyone. Your listening ears, non-judgmental words, and supportive presence are more than enough.
• Help as much as you can but don’t drown yourself trying to be everyone else’s anchor.
• “You are never responsible for the actions of others; you are only responsible for yourself.” - Don Miguel Ruiz in the “Don’t Take Anything Personally” book.
• And here is a reminder quote from Pema Chödrön: “Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It is a relationship between equals.”

🍀 What tip would you give a friend struggling to overcome saviour complex?

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