Trapped
I tried posting this earlier and it didn’t work so I hope this isn’t a repeat.
my live in boyfriend of 3 years is awful to me. He has a lot of mental health issues, endured a lot of trauma as well, but refuses to get help. He verbally abuses me but denies it. He yells at me everyday. If I ask him how work was, he says I’m being invasive and I ask too many questions. It’s a one sided relationship for sure. I wait on him hand and foot, borrow money if needed so he has everything the needs, then when he has money and I have needs, I’m called a stupid bi**h as he angrily gives me what I need. He has cheated on me, we lost a baby together, and he blames me for not trusting him. We are facing homelessness now. I need a job but anything I get lined up, he finds a way to sabotage it. I try a factory, he says I can’t do a man’s job. I find one that requires a commute, and it’s not reasonable yet it’s ok for him to commute. This is a brief description of everything. I want him to get help-I see his potential-but he refuses. If I express any unhappiness and desire for change, he threatens suicide. It feels like I’m trapped because I have to take his nasty words and treatment or he kills himself. How do I get him to get help?
It seems like you're in a abusive relation ship you need to realize , your right he does need help , but you , are in love with the wrong person, your putting all your emotions, your money , and just about everything else , and I'm sorry to say he dosent seem to realy care about you ,
You need help more than him because you are victimized, by his shelfish behavior, sexist attitude,
I know what it's like to try to keep a relationship going , and caring for someone who doesn't love me , I began to get mad at myself because I seemed to put myselfe in the same relationship s over again put ing all my and efforts , energy money to the wrong person a person who was just using me ,
So I'm striving to find the right woman for me , I know women are not all the same this is something people want you to think , but I believe there is someone I am destined to be with , a soul mate , everyone has one if you know this is what god intended for us all , Im always looking for my soulmate, but I know soon she will find me as I find her ,
In my opinion, the best you can do is leave. You can't help a person who doesn't want help.
I know it's hard and I know it's painful. With time and distance from him it will get easier, I promise.
I don't think he would kill himself if you leave, I think he just threatens you with that because he knows you love him. I have seen it happen before and it has been like that.
If he does harm himself, however, remember it is not your fault. It is his decision to do so. You are not responsible for other people's decisions. And who knows, maybe that would be the wake up call he needs to get help.
I hope this helps and I hope you get the help you need
Sounds like you have really tried. For your own self you need to leave immediately , so call a woman’s shelter tell them you need to leave you are in a abusive relationship. They will provide you with temporary safe housing and get you back on your feet so you can heal, they can also help you find a job and supply you with clothes and enable you to move forward.
best wishes
Hey hey
People before me have written some great stuff, so I'm not going to lengthen that.
I'm just gonna one thing. If you are a '97,'96,'95 born, try searching and reading about Chiron in your natal birth chart.
Hope this helps somehow.
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