What to do?
I have been seeing this guy I met online for about 3 months. And in this short span we have met some of our friends and family which was unplanned it just so happened.
I can't tell if he is interested in me or just for sex. We do hang out outside the bedroom by going for dinners and concerts but we don't call it dates or anything. However, we do prefer to stay in because we are more of homebodies but we also want to save money.
On Sunday we both opened up about our past relationship and discussed what worked and didn't. The good parts and the bad parts of them. We also said what we will avoid for our next relationship.
We text almost everyday and when we do the convo doesn't really die off it keeps going. He doesn't make any moves when we are out and about but he lets me link arms and lay on his shoulder. He's super supportive with me about my work such as if I had a stressful day he would try to make me feel better as I do for him.
sigh….I always have to be the one to ask him to hang out but most of the time he does say yes to hanging out
I know his last relationship it moved fairly quick as they dated for 1.5 years and 6 months in was living together. Soooo I'm not sure if he is taking it slow because of that and because we both just got out of relationship in April. But we discussed that we both checked out of the relationship long before the breakup happened
People told me to just ask him or tell him how I feel but I feel like it's wayyy too soon and I'm afraid of his answer.
I don’t think it’s too soon to ask him what his intentions are and tell him how you really feel. If you’re seriously considering dating this person in the future then putting yourself out there may be awkward and yes you risk rejection, but it’s better than not knowing!
From the sounds of it this guy might be more of the shy type or at least you’re more of the initiator of the two of you (and that isn’t a bad thing).
My current partner said he loved me after a month, it freaked me out a bit at first but I knew I had some feelings for him - now we’ve been together for almost 2 years now.
I just got out of a 11 year relationship and it was pretty toxic for me. I def would consider dating him in the future because he made me understand that there are better guys out there who wouldn't treat me the way my ex did and that helped me open up my eyes to not go back to the roller coaster relationship I was in.
I'm afraid that I completely read him wrong and he isn't interested at all. But he also spent my entire birthday weekend with me and I had a really fun & good time with him. I was surprised that he actually came when I invited him.
I wonder if he has always been the shy type or did he just start acting this way because when I hear his stories of his pst it seems like he initiates hanging out.
Awwww that's so cute! Sounds like it was love at first sight for the both of you.
All this tells me you should definitely go for it, sounds like you both had a rough go of things last time around and it’s time for a fresh start. I don’t know many people that would spend someone’s entire birthday weekend with them if they weren’t interested :)
I know when my confidence is low I am not the one to take a first step so yeah sounds like he just needs a bit of nudging this time around until he gets back to himself.
No need to go fast just take things one step at a time, I’m sending good vibes your way!
I know that's what many people said too that if he wasn't interested why would he spend the entire weekend with me. I feel like because I been with my ex for a decade of my life that I have an image that men are just using me for company or flake on me. It's really sad to even say that because it makes me trust people hard.
Today I thought me and him had plans but I get that it wasn't finalized so it's okay for him to have other things to do I just feel weird about it like ooh... We usually hang Fridays and etc. But I know I don't have right to ask cause we never discuss about what we are to each other so he still can do w.e he wants and as can I
I just feel like I don't have the courage to express myself and it def takes me out of my comfort zone to do it. Usually the guy would confess and make the moves
I asked him today
He said friends, he asked do I feel some other way I said idk do you he said no I'm gonna be transparent with you and I don't want to hurt you or anything but if you're not okay with it let me know
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