Female Abnormal Orgasm
This is something that I deal with that I find completely embarrassing. Its really become an issue for me.
Already I am very shy, and having to deal with this.. Has made it extremely difficult for me. I am so self conscious about it and dread the thought of not being able to control it.
I know that many times it is glorified in porn and some men may like it, but in reality it is messy and unattractive.
I have had one sexual partner, and although I am ready to move on, this is holding me back. I have reaserched ways of how I can stop this, but nothing helps. I am extremely sensitive and orgasm easily and in this manner. I am not a prude, but I'm just tired of not being able to have sex because it makes a mess!
Any advice is appreciated.
@iwantcake1987 - I'll confess that I don't have personal experience in this area, but what I will say is that in general (to varying degrees, of course), sex is pretty often messy regardless and not at all the clean, constantly sexy, pristine thing you see on TV. People make funny noises, bend in positions that don't work, and slip all around. But with trust in your partner and a bit of confidence that you are both going to have fun, it can be pretty great.
I personally think it all comes down to communication and trust - if you're worried about this being embarrassing or messy, you can talk to your partner about it. And if they say that it doesn't bother them, chances are, it doesn't! Most people by the time they're getting to sex are pretty excited about it, regardless of little quirks or messes that come with it.
If it makes you more comfortable, you could also experiment with ways to make clean-up easier so you don't feel as self-conscious - shower sex, putting a towel down (which many people do to have sex when on their period), seeing if different positions make you feel more comfortable, etc.
@iwantcake1987
Porn is never really an accurate representative of what sex actually is. It's a dangerous ideal to live up to for both men and women, as men will feel like they have to be really well endowed and women will feel like they have to look or sound a certain way.
The fact of the matter is, sex is messy. And that's okay! When two people are coming together out of love or lust or whatever it happens to be, it's going to be messy. Like @Anomalia said, there are ways to do it so that there's quick clean up, too, if it's a genuine concern.
But, most of your partners are going to realize that things are not like how they are in porn. If you're very reactive to the things they're doing, believe me when I say that's typically a plus - partners like to see their partners feel good. :D
Female orgasm which just men focus on to make their partner feel amazing and turn the time to enjoy the sexual activity. But it seems that many women suffer from abnormal orgasm which leads to unhappy relationship. However there are several reasons on how orgasm benefits men like:
Orgasm boosts oxytocin level
Increases testosterone level
Feels better
However for men it is suggested that if your female partner does not able to orgasm then better you follow some rules so that she can also enjoy the right time. For men it is suggest to:
Slowly build up while beginning for sexual activity
Kiss on her right spine
Also suggested to put a good perfume
Do sex in doggy style
Even you can make your girl on top
Follow these rules and you can see the difference within days and you both couple can enjoy the moment without frustration. However you can also check some latest information on mensexualclinic.com in details.