Help for female struggling with masturbation
I’m a female who struggles with masturbation and am looking for some help/accountability. I know a lot of people view masturbation as something healthy and normal, but let me start out by saying this is not the case with me. For me personally it’s an unhealthy, addictive behavior that is impacting my wellbeing and my relationship with my spouse. So anyone who can accept or agree with that perspective would be helpful. Please don’t comment encouraging this behavior, because it is VERY triggering! Are there any listeners that are willing to offer advice/accountability on this issue? It feels weird to message someone randomly about this since it’s such a personal topic, but this is an issue that is so hard to find female accountability and support with from this perspective. Any advice/support appreciated!
@peachCranberry9847 Listeners here at 7 Cups are not allowed to give advice. If any do give you advice, I hope you will report them.
I'm not an expert, but I know that there's a lot of information about recovery from addictions on the Internet. It's easy to find if you search. I imagine that perhaps some of it can be adapted so it applies to your situation. However, there is also a lot of disagreement about how addictions happen and what works best when you are trying to recover.
For example, some experts think that substituting some other behaviour to replace the problem behaviour is a good idea (like vaping for smoking, for example), while some experts think that's a terrible approach. Personally, I think it's likely different things work for different people.
From what you've written here it sounds like things are pretty serious, as this is impacting both your own wellbeing and your relationship. That makes me wonder whether it's serious enough to need professional help, but I have no idea whether an addiction specialist or a relationship specialist would be the right kind of professional to approach.
If you'd like to chat about the situation, feel free to click on my profile picture and message me, but I hope you will respect that I'm not an expert and I don't reveal personal details on this platform.
Charlie
You can always reach out to me, I have struggled with this for a while some time ago. I know that it can be very tough but the idea is to keep ourselves motivated and distracted by finding new hobbies