6 years and no sign of commitment

@forevergf

I guess the question may depend on the age you are Now.

Six years is a long time to not have a solid plan... how do you see your life .... will that wait

The one thing that waits for No One is TIME ........ how much do you have to give away without a return on your investment of your energy and feelings....... would you like to be asking yourself down the road 10 years or more?

@forevergf

It's understandable that after six years of being together, you would have expectations and desires for a commitment and a future with your partner. It can be frustrating and disheartening when your partner seems hesitant or resistant to discussing those topics.

Communication and understanding each other's needs and concerns are essential in any relationship. It's important to have an open and honest conversation with your partner about your feelings and your desire for a more committed future. Express to him how important it is for you to have clarity and a shared vision for your relationship.

Listen to his perspective as well. Understand that everyone has their own timeline and fears when it comes to commitment. It's possible that he might have underlying concerns or hesitations that he hasn't fully communicated to you.However, it's also important to reflect on your own needs and priorities. Consider how much longer you are willing to wait and be patient. Think about what a fulfilling and committed future looks like for you and whether you're willing to compromise or make any adjustments in your expectations.

Ultimately, the decision of how long to wait is yours. It's important to prioritize your own happiness and well-being in the relationship. If you feel that your needs for commitment and a future together are not being met, it might be worth reevaluating the relationship and considering whether it aligns with your long-term goals and aspirations.

Remember, relationships require mutual effort, understanding, and shared goals. Trust your instincts and prioritize your own emotional well-being as you navigate through this challenging situation.

@forevergf so I was actually MARRIED to and lived with a guy like this.

He married me even moved in and then started reneging on it all.

In the end, he lied, cheated, stole my funds and I had to run for my life!!

Six years LDR and he likes it how it is, he has some life he is living without you in it F2F and he is happy with this arrangement. I more than suspect this is not in your favor.

It will not change. I unfortunately had to leave my husband whom I felt about as you do. He did all that the diseases in his heart.

I live in my own apartment. He doesn't live. His addictions and horrible lifestyle killed him!!

@forevergf

I'd honestly recommend relationship counseling, because that's a long time together for things to go south now for the wrong reasons. Lots of wrong reasons come up as soon as marriage or marriage talk is in the picture... But not all of them are wrong either. No one here knows his side of the story as of yet, but do you know why he really feels this way at all? It's good that you're planning a talk with him. Obviously, you're going to need this addressed either way for your own good, so I hope that it goes well for both of you.

@forevergf my personal belief is that I always make sure to have a timetable sort of calendar thing going on so for example, I call it my relationship map I don’t know what else to call it basically it goes like this where the talking stage lasts for three months and then the dating stage last for six months and then he has a year to propose but all of that is flexible so like, for example if we need more time in the talking stage, that can happen, other dating face or the marriage phase. Communication is the key to everything so I just use suggest you to communicate everything that you’re thinking about to your partner that can be great.

@forevergf

I hear you, it sounds like you have been in a relationship for a while and there is no lack of commitment in regards to your future together. I can see how it must be tough to bring up important topics and get responses that leave you unsure about the future of the relationship.

It is important to communicate your desires and needs, even if it is a difficult conversation. Your feelings matter and the talk can give you a better understanding of his perspective and whether this relationship aligns with your goals. Taking time to reflect on your needs before discussing can also help you decide how to approach the topic. Hope this helps and that you take care!

@forevergf

Hello! I just read your post. It sounds like you're feeling very frustrated and uncertain about your relationship with your partner. It's understandable that you want to take the next step in your relationship after being together for 6 years, but it can be difficult when your partner doesn't seem ready to commit as he keeps telling you to be patient.

If you have not already, sitting down with your partner to have an open and honest conversation about your feelings and expectations can be beneficial. It will help you both to see what is on his mind and share what is on your mind. You can start by expressing your concerns and listening to your partner's perspective as well.

Also, your partner may have their own fears about committing to a future together. With an open and honest conversation, you will be able to figure out what he may be fearing about commitment and why he tends to always tell you to be patient. Ultimately, it's up to you to decide how long you're willing to be patient. It's important to prioritize your own happiness and well-being! 

I hope that everything goes well and works out for you two. Have a good day (: