Boyfriend tells me what to wear
Okay, so I started going to the gym recently and wore my usual gym attire -- a loose tank and short shorts. My boyfriend says that's not okay with him, that it's disrespectful to the relationship because other guys can see the sides of my boobs or the bottom of my butt. Is he being controlling? Am I just getting defensive? A recent thing I did that's sorta similar... I asked him to stop listening to asmr. He usually listens to these beautiful women smacking their lip gloss and whispering in his ear till he falls asleep, and it bothers me. Are we both too possessive? Am I just too defensive?
@bellebeast
Hello glad you're seeking support 💛
It is a challenging situation to be in, when we feel we're being controlled in a way? Wearing what we want is a personal choice and no one should get the right to tell that .
I am not one to comment, but I feel that communication is a really good thing in any relationship and clear stating of boundaries and what we tolerate or not .
It is also important to trust our partner . You're not being defensive, your feelings are valid, something may bother us and maybe instead of saying "Don't do that " , we can say " Hey ,It really bothers me when you do that (what bothers you ?) Because of this ( why does it bother you?) , I'd be really glad if we come to common ground for this " ,so the partner knows it's bothering and causing us stress and they will understand or we can come to common ground, that's working for both of us . Trust, understanding , respect, communication-following these keys, it might be helpful in relationship 💛
Best wishes