Frustrated and Sad

@Juls7376 Hello there! Thank you for sharing. I know that must have been hard to write out; I'm proud of you for doing that. Your relationship went from casual to something more personal, making your feelings stronger. It seems that your boyfriend says some very hurtful things to you when you argue. It is good that you make up. However, if he keeps bringing this up, it could hurt you. If you haven't yet, it might be a good idea to talk to him about your issues if it's safe to- communication is key to a relationship!

Other situations you bring up make me think that you're not being appreciated for your work. That's an awful feeling to have, and you don't deserve it. I can tell you care a lot and try. However, a relationship cannot work one-sided, no matter how much you care about them. He might not respect you because he feels he doesn't have to. There could be a lot of reasons why- another reason you should talk to him if you can about the situation.

I wish the best for you in your situation. Good luck!

@Juls7376

Hey there, hopefully you are doing well. Theres a few things i would like to point out;

My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half and at the beginning of our relationship neither one of us wanted anything serious. It was more of a friend with benefits situation. After a few months we decided to take it to another level and he asked me to move in with him (At this point it was way too soon to move in together, this communicates he projected unmet needs on you) however if we argued about anything he reverted right back to telling me he never wanted this (This indicates he is projecting how he feels on you and its not taking responsablity for his actions. He sounds incredibly immature and selfish) and to get out of his house. (This is his way of punishing you and to get rid of things, it shows he has zero adult communication) We always make up but its still happening when we argue. He says really mean things when we argue and tells me that I make him say it.(He is being rude and disrespectful here. I can tell he losee emotional self control and then says all of kinds of things to hurt you. The way he blames you communicates he is projecting and he doesn't have the ability to accept he is at fault. You got to be careful because his behavior will affect you emotionally, and its impossible to have a healthy relationship with him) I tell him no that he chose to say those things (You are right)but he still says I made him. (He sounds passive-agressive where everything he does will make him think you either trigger or caused it.The fact is he is choosing to say those words and its not your fault) I dont work but I do bring in money selling things online and every penny I give directly to him (Its a bad idea 5p do this because you should also have money for you as well) however he treats me like I dont do anything.(This is the way he tries to make you feel less than him by treating you as if you dont do anything) He doesnt lift a finger. (He treats you as if you dont do anything, but in reality he is the one who doesn't do anything. I can tell he was projecting here as well) I wait on him hand and foot. (This is going to make him treat you poorly and your value in his eyes will decrease) Our home is spotless always, his clothes are clean and put away always, and I have dinner made every night when he gets home and I serve it to him while he sits. So after all my rambling my question is why does he care so little about me and why am I not worth respect and love??? (Theres various reasons; 1) You let him disrespect you, 2) you wait on his hand and foot, 3) He knows you will stay no matter how he treats you, 4)You don't behave in a way where it communicates self respect, 5)He is very avoidant, 6) He projects his feelings all the time, 7)You are dealing with a man who is selfish, 8) He only cares about himself, 9) you reward him with things when he treats you poorly, 10) He has way too many issues)