How to get over someone?
I dated a guy a year ago and we only broke up because high school was getting too crazy and busy. We've tried to get back together, but things got in the way. I have been in 4 relationships since then...and I am still thinking of him 24/7. All I can think of is "what would he do" "well this guy isn't like him" I compare everyone to him because he was a great guy. There is no chance for me to be with him again, as he moved away for college, I'm in a relationship right now, and I'm pretty sure he doesnt miss me at all. Usually it takes as long as the relationship was to get over someone, and it's been longer than 3 months. (Yes, I know. My relationships never last long. It's in another thread). Why can't I move past him? Is it because I don't really want to, even though I tell myself I do? What should I do?
In my experience, once I've loved someone, it's very hard to not love them anymore. If you give your all to someone, you're probably still going to think about what they're doing and how they'd react to certain situations. But most commonly, I find that when I don't have closure with someone, that's when I really start to think about them. Like, if there's a lot left unsaid, or if it ended not-mutually, then it's something that would likely stay in the back of your mind.
Do you feel like when you two broke up, you were given that time to heal? Did you two end amiably, or did it go really badly? How would you feel about telling him your thoughts, and seeing if he feels similarly?
@Cadence
I think we ended it mutually based on the agreement that school was becoming really stressful during that year. Since we've also talked about getting back together several times in the last year or so, I think we both know how each other feels....maybe I feel a bit more than he does though. I don't even know if this is love..we only dated for a few months....
@BeDifferent161Once you love someone you kind of keep loving them :) I have someone I still love that I was with about 6 years ago haha. I am not in a loving relationship again though, ofc I think of the other dude sometimes, but its different. Comparing other people with him is not the best way to go, you might do it uncontiously... but yeah try and stop it. Other people have other qualities to love :)