I'm afraid I'm losing the person that means the most to me
My girlfriend told me she no longer wanted to be with me and since has tried to keep me as a close friend and given me mixed signals. Recently she told me there's a good chance we get back together as we both grow to be better people but she's still open to dating someone if they asked her but believes if that happens we'll still be together after. I'm confused hurting and worried as she has meant everything to me for the past 2+ years. We're both young, her being younger than me, but I dont want to lose her she was the girl I really saw as the one amd I'm terrified I'm going to lose her. I need advice as to what to do without pushing her away.
@Caseyts119 Hi there :) I would like to let you know that I'm going through the exact same thing. In regards to what to do without pushing her away, I guess what you have to try is let her do what she wants. It will be difficult and at times painful, but if she's happy then you guys wont drift. Be there for her when she needs you. Most of all, i understand that at the moment she still means a great deal to you and you might not want to imagine getting over her because you still have hope for a relationship together in the future, but keep yourself busy. If she wants to explore, maybe you should put yourself out there too. Aim to get rid of your feelings for her. Don't be afraid to, because it doesn't mean you will lose her as a friend. It will just make things easier. You both have your whole lives ahead of you. Don't be 'loyal' and committed to ONLY her for the rest of your life, even though you feel like you want to because she seems like the one. What if she decides to start something with a new person, but you're still stuck on her? It will break you even more. Think of it like you guys getting back together in the future is a backup plan. There are so many people out there and i'm sure you'll both find someone, whether it's eachother or someone new. Good luck with everything, and don't give up <3
@brokennugget
For me it's hard because she says that she thinks there's a good chance for us to be together again. I dont want to give up on that until I have a definitive answer she still talks to me and wants to hangout. She's also admitted she still has feelings for me and when I'm not there misses me. To me I dont want to give up on 2+ years in 3 weeks. I also feel that she is confused about her own life and future. Unfortunately patience isn't my strong suit and loyalty is my gift and curse.
@Caseyts119 I'm completely in the same position and understand. It's going to be hard and most likely painful. I still hold onto that hope of us getting back together in the future, but it's important to not live your life dependent on that hope.
@brokennugget I don't depend on it but its always there mixed with the worry and fear that this will go on for a while and then she'll just move on without warning
@Caseyts119
Sorry to hear youre struggling. It very hard I know. My wife recently called into question our marriage. MOre or less out of the blue for me. IT hurts and sucks wanting to give enough space so they can be at peace but wanting to do something to ensure it works. Im sorry I dont have any answers for you, as I am searching for them too. Just know talking to people helps and keep positive in everything in your life as much as possible, because the other road is much quicker and darker.. See the good and talk to good people. Best of luck.
@Tim062
Thank you I really appreciate the kind words amd I hope things improve with your situation as well. I know no one can give me the answers only suggestions. Talking to people helps especially in situations like this when I see who really cares. She's kind of made it hard to give her much space because if I dont text her for a few days she worries I hate her, which i don't to me she is my world. I wanna try to lay how I feel out for her when I see her next and hopefully it helps and doesn't hurt her or push her further away.