Loving the unavailable
Hey.
I have decided to open up on here just to feel listened to without judgement and hopefully to feel better about the current situation by getting things off my chest. Any advice tho would be greatly appreciated!
I am currently harbouring very intense and unrequited feelings for a guy I met at work. It has been this way for nearly a year. I have tried everything I possibly can to stop, including blocking all contact except for work based interactions, seeing other people and throwing myself into any form of distraction but these feelings are still ever present and growing. The persistence has me certain that these feelings are true and very deep.
he is currently in a relationship. Nothing has happened in the sense of inappropriate action. I fully respect he’s in a relationship and have made no moves or intentions to indulge him in how I feel. However I genuinely do feel we have an incredible connection, unlike anyone else I’ve ever met. We are very good friends and talk daily now. We confide in each other a lot and even some individuals at work have noticed interest not just from me but him too..there’s definitely something there between that is for sure.
I am struggling with the frustration of it all. Knowing he’s unavailable so nothing can be done, but not being able to move on either no matter how hard I try. I’m just feeling stuck. Hopefully there’s someone out there that can relate to my situation.
thank you for reading:)
@lovingBirch549
it is up to him to decide to end his relationship if he wants to be with you.........
It sucks when you feel so strongly and yet you know IF you make a move.......... it might all come crashing down. I used to have feelings and thought maybe they felt great because it was not possible and when faced with "ok lets go " do you start to waver on well we need to do this or this first.
i currently have an online friend i feel so strongly about i literally would drop things and go IF he asked
i can not explain how out of character that is of me ...... he said if things happened and were different he would ask me to marry him
( he is already married) but we can say these things as we doubt those scenarios will play out.
So how do you manage these feelings if you don’t mind me asking? I don’t want to give up on my feelings bc they are so strong, and I feel like there is something there..it’s completely out of character for me and it’s reassuring to know I’m not the only one going through similar, even if the situations are less than ideal
@lovingBirch549
I manage because i am happier talking to him and visiting by video then i was without him .... it is hard because both of us want it differently.
enjoy what they can give you and hope all works out the way you want we cannot rush time