Me and my girlfriend keep running into issues about me.
Currently im long distance with my girlfriend of 1.5 years. Im not sure what im doing wrong or what is wrong with me but I've concluded that im not really normal but I struggle to be like her, how she talks, acts,wants, and expressions. I've desperately tried to change and be the one she loves and not the one that isn't sure if i even loves her back. Yesterday she started questioning me hard and it felt like an interigation and a investigation. she Asked me a lot of things but what she got mad at me about is her none understanding of why im not sexual and why I don't care about it. So my question and support i look for is, what am I doing wrong because she says she loves me and who I am but then again this situation keeps happening and we or she tries to fix it. I say she tries more because she claims she does and 8 can't help but agree since I have trouble expressing me though I try. Any tips to better me and the relationship and how I can be more sexual to meet her needs?
sexual items seem to be a big thing in most rocky relationships .....
it seems like some people seem to have very little interest or it is not high on their priorities .... for others who feel differently this is a hard concept to understand...
Feelings of love do not erase that difference ........ some who seem to be not interested in sex seem to think " if you love me......... you should just understand and forget about your needs"
I think it is fine if you have no interest but it seems she does......
far too many people IMO ........think he or she will change ......or emotional love is enough .......then years into it they realize it is NOT enough..... no one can help you ( except maybe a doctor) if you have no sexual interest but they only thing is if you can Honestly explain and get her to understand your feelings about it.
Hi!
From her point of view, i can imagine what she is thinking because she physically isnt near you. If shes asking you questions about “sex” she may be feeling uncertain if you are doing something behind her back and this could be heart-wrenching for her too. Long distance relationships are hard!
From your point of view, I dont think that you should try to change who you are for someone else & attempt to be like her. The great thing about the world is that you are allowed to simply be unapologetically YOU! & thats an amazing person to be!
If you have feelings of uncertainty & you are confused if you love her or not, this could be a sign that you have to give yourself some time & space rather than trying to do something for her that your not sure of.. if that makes sense.
I think maybe seeing each other in person could possibly help you make a more emotional/physical connection with her and could help once she goes back home or vice versa.. I think sometimes having someone long distance it can be hard to be sexual if you havent made that emotional connection with her.. I would reassure her of her position in your life & maybe try writing her a letter where u can express yourself in a more honest way & have time to gather your thoughts & then place them on paper. Maybe it would be easier for you to express yourself if she isnt looking at you.. if this is the case, maybe you can ask her if she could look away & try different communication methods to really express what your feeling.
I hope that she is open & can hear your heart. If you need to, dont be afraid to leave the situation. It is better to break up & revisit the relationship at a later time than stay & ruin the possibility of a reconciliation at a later date.
I hope my opinion is helpful to you or anyone reading. I wish you best of luck & hopefully everything turns out for the best! sending much love & light!