Spouse hiding/lying about having a burial plot next to his late wife
@determinedBeach8756,
what exactly is wrong with that?
He's lying about it
@determinedBeach8756,
not necessarily.
It might feel like lying but is it?
How does it make you feel? And I don't mean telling him he lies, that is accusing and labeling, and not how you feel.
Maybe he just finds it hard to share his feelings. Thinks it would hurt your feelings. Maybe he just still loves his wife. Doesn't mean he doesn't love you less.
Don't let your emotions kick in, they only tend to create havoc and do damage, for no reason at all.
@determinedBeach8756- they may have picked out and paid for burial plots a long time ago. Perhaps he is a little embarrassed by the subject. And so sad that it is his late wife - were they married for a long time, had children together etc etc. Also his family may be aware of his burial plans.
And yes, it does not he loves you less. It is simply history they had together. I would try to let it go.
After all, he may be wanting to not hurt your feelings. Hence the "lie". What the two of you are doing together day by day is what really matters.
I would agree with @Barncat it may have been a deal made a long time ago ....
many people forget about that sort of thing and then not sure of how to deal with it now.
