Things were going well and then ended! Confused!
I met this girl! I started talking to her and then she left me on read. I waited 3 days and msged her again. Thats when things kicked off. Eventually leading to our first date. Took her for dinner at her favorite place. Then i said i could take you home or we can go watch a movie so we did. Finally took her home. She gave me one of those tight squeeze my soul hugs. The second i left her apartment i get a text about how great of a time she had. It wasnt 2 weeks later until we went on our last minute squeezed in date. Brunch. It went well. I took her home got the same hug and she ask when will i be back, and that we should go out and started listing things to do such as bowling or ice skating. A week went by and finally I was coming back in town for good for college again. I asked if she is still down for the third date (i planned to kiss her on this date) but she said work and winter class are keeping her busy and shell let me know when the week gets closer. So the week gets closer i brought the date up again and it was the same response. A gave it couple days and ask if anything was wrong. Thats when she said she didnt see us on a romantic level and things didnt connect the way she wanted to. I was sad. A week went by a friend at work with her said she mentioned me and ask if i was okay. She also told my friend what happened but it was different from what she told me. She told my friend she had great time with me on the dates but the whole dating scene made her think. Shes in nuring program which is keeping her busy and the whole dating made her think about her past (ex). So she said she wasnt ready. But why didnt she tell me that. I dont believe we didnt connect with how those dates went and for her to even plan the third date that she later canceled. The day she ended it we never really talked. Half a month went by I posted me playing the piano and she slid up on my stories and said how great i was at the piano and we had a day worth of convo. The cono lead to where you saw yourself in 10 years. She said hopeful with a job and not in school. I knew she liked kids so i said ill prob try for kids by then and ask what she think about kids. Probably to person so that she left me on read. A week went by and she msged me again. Im starting to think is she trying to talk or she's just curious about the piano. But this time i left her on read. Idk. this whole this had mix signals. I plan on giving it time and trying later. Opinions?
@Stavin yeah I can't agree more. Sounds like she can't make up her mind or she's not telling you everything when she knows your worrying about her and it's strange behaviour.
Have you spoken to anyone about this? Your friends or family? If so what have they said. I don't know if getting a second opinion from them will help as usually they know what to say but sounds like you haven't been anything but a good date.
It's more about them then you and cuz you can't tell what there like or who they are through text or maybe face to face that it becomes less of something and that maybe she's not doing something herself to get to open or other things you mentioned about her ex. Insecurities maybe doubts. I don't know it's something for her to think about. All you can do is be that but leave all your cards on the tables the saying is.
Just be cool, relaxed let her know you got busy life and your not just thinking about her. That your being protective. She will like that and be more interested.
I will just not say anything but consider what actions to make the situation easy to be approached. That's help on the website on how relationships work and dating. You find that might help. Answer some of your questions. We got a relationship community here too. It's active so if you were looking for help maybe pop by there.
Right now don't worry and just be yourself. If she's the one she will appreciate you if not someone else would. Take your time and don't rush. Remember your good to be in a relationship.
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@TreaureSeekers3 good advice! i just dont believe we didnt connect like she said. those date went so well, she even planned the third date (that she canceled). But she dm me twice after a month of her breaking things off. I was planning on letting things cool and invite her to a party whenever my buds and i host one. and maybe this summer ask her to catch up on coffee or something. Some agree to that plan and some say she broke things up she should be the one reaching out. But she kinda already did with those dm. I think its weird to reach out to the guy youve been on dates with without an underlying purpose but some just say shes just beening friendly
