when are you in a healthy relationship?
In my opinion (this goes for romantic relationships but also for friendships) a relationship is healthy when you don't take it for granted but don't have to spend 24/7 to keep it alive. The best relationships are those you have with the people you don't have to talk to everyday but you'll always be able to pic up where you left off.
what do you think is healthy/unhealthy?
@colourfulWatermelon53
In my opinion, there are core aspects of a relationship that must be in place in order for a relationship to be healthy. Anything over those things are byproducts when those core aspects are working well.
- Honesty - A solid relationship cannot survive without honesty, sometimes it's painful - but just telling one another the truth is a key component to any relationship.
- Respect - This means respect for yourself and for each other. This means you treat the relationship with respect that it deserves. You never disrespect yourself, your partner, nor your relationship. The impact can be long lasting and difficult to recover from.
- Communication - A healthy relationship requires an appropriate amount of communication. I don't mean talking about mundane things, but those crucial conversations that couples really need to have in order to learn, grow, develop with one another. This includes the WAY in which couples fight and resolve their differences (including compromise). Couples need to talk to one another, not avoid communication - they certainly need to be open, straight forward, and keep the flow between themselves. There could have been many fights avoided in your average relationship, had they only learned to LISTEN and TALK to one another.
- Friendship - It's important not only to be companions, wife/husband or boyfriend/girlfriend, but also friends under it all. One of the things I have asked MANY older couples that have managed to stay together happily for years is the real secret. It's the fact that throughout all of those years, they were friends no matter what. Being friends, you can both weather more storms together.
- Trust - Once trust in a relationship is broken, it's very difficult to recover. It can be done - but takes a long time. Trust is a key component that thrives between you. You both trust one another to always act in good faith and for the best interests of the relationship under all circumstances.
- Shared Values - In many cases, a mismatch in shared values can sink even the best intentions that two people might have when they decide to form a relationship and move from casual dating to a real connection. Your values and that of your partner do not need to fully match - but, the closer the values between you match, the stronger the likelihood that things will work out between you long term. When values are too far apart, conflict arises more often and those unresolved differences can cause ever-dangerous resentment. When looking for a life partner, make sure to select someone that shares a lot of your personal values. Many of those qualities are hard coded but only a small few can adjust over a period of time. The closer yours match - the better.
@colourfulWatermelon53 i do think this too
@colourfulWatermelon53 i followed you online
mine is unhealthy and i been brokenhearted three times and i have alot on my plate including stress
hope to hear from you soon
