Feeling distant
Hey guys, so i need to vent and also find a solution for my problem so please help.
Whenever I make friends i always feel left out, I blame myself for this because I'm always distant and I don't engage very often with people, like when I'm with a group of people and they talk I don't talk very much,i laugh when people make jokes, talk when they talk to me but generally i just observe silently. But recently i have been feeling like i'm left out all alone, everyone made their close friend and I don't have one, i have a big group of friends and i like them all they're cool and fun but like i said everyone found their close friend so what should i do to fix my situation?
And to clarify, i made this group of friends during online school, we talked via messenger, Instagram etc. and Again I didn't talk much with them because i hate texting lol, so now we're back at university and everyone is closer to someone except for me. Also I always like to socialize and make new friends but I end up connecting with them on a skin deep/shallow levels, nothing deep or meaningful and all and i hate it.
for conclusion( because i talked a lot lol): i need to find a solution for myself to stop being so distant. How do i do this?
@thoughtfulCircle3779
Sounds to me like you need to dig into yourself, to discover yourself more.
- You like to socialise and make new friends. I'll take it you're not shy. What do you like about making new friends?
- But you tend to be quiet and observe in a group. What about a 1-1 interaction or when only a few people are involved?
- You want a meaningful friendship. How are meaningful looks like to you?
- When you said distant, is that means you're looking to feel connected? What would make you feel connected? There are many types of connections in our relationship with others. Intellectual connection, spiritual connection, emotional connection. Physical connection.
You can continue open-ended questions to yourself until you understand yourself better.
May I ask, how do you feel when I ask questions to get to know you better? When the conversation is focused on you? 🙂
I hope it helps a bit 💜
Thank you so much, I think yes i should discover myself more and i will start doing this from now on, thank you for the advice and the questions 😍
and i would really like to talk to you more and answer your questions and have a conversation with you if that doesn't bother you ♥️