Fights
Me and my “girlfriend.” Constantly fight about many things. We always but heads rather than viewing it as me and her vs the problem. I’ve talked to her about this but she takes offense to it and in turn gets defensive and try’s to fight again. What can I do?
You have to tell confront her about this it's not about that you both are fighting because having fighting is natural in a relationship no two humans can have no differences so it's fine. You have to address this problem together. Like tell her like this - take this problem as a baby like your own baby or pet and ask her what she would have done if you would not have been able to keep it with you so now will you fight with each other and blame each other for it or sit together and try to find a solution about how to we can keep it with ourself. Bcoz if you keep pn fighting with each other it will only break your relationship in long run. And maybe here your girlfriend has a problem of not addressing the issue directly that's okay try to talk to her slowly and calmly understand her position too. It will be awkward at starting for her but if she loves she will listen to you