Who was your best friend at school or college and share about this unique friendship...

My best friend of 4 years, Jillian, or Jelly Bean, Jilly, Jilly Bean, Jelly Bean the Greenbean, etc.

I met her in the 4th grade when I switched schools in the middle of the year. I was lonely and had no friends. At some point during a school sleepover, the teachers asked us to split into groups, and I, having no friends at the time, was looking around with my stomach sinking as I saw other girls getting with their friends, giggling at jokes I'll never be a part of.

That's when I met Jillian. She waved me over to her group with a bright smile. She introduced herself and her friends, Olivia and Ava. We just clicked. From then on, our friendship grew stronger. I never really developed friendships with other girls as most were fake and used me to get popular. It was never like that with Jillian. I could be myself and not be afraid of getting judged. We were as tight as thieves and spent lots of time together. Over the years, I considered her my best friend, and, one of my only friends. I never trusted the popular girls as I thought they were faker than Nicki Minaj's arse. We got each other gifts, one of which she gave me a cute cat tape dispenser that I still have to this day. She introduced me to Totoro, Pusheen, etc. She encouraged me when I thought my drawings looked like sh*t.

I never gained any more friends until the 7th or 8th grade, where I met Tran, Emily, and Meg. I moved schools at the end of 8th grade as I couldn't take the constant drama and just needed a change of pace.

As of right now, Jillian and I rarely speak. We didn't have a falling out, nor are we in a fight. Our friendship is just...fading away. I guess the saying "Out of sight, out of mind" is true.

I miss you, Jilly.

At school I had a best friend from year 6 to year 12. Honestly, I think she is one of the few people in my life that I've ever really loved and felt comfortable around. We met in year 6 since she was new to the school then and one of my other friends at the time was assigned to be her buddy and show her around the school. She instantly became our friend. I've always been a shy and introverted person, but being around this friend was all I needed to feel included even if I was quieter than my other friends. Over the years, I slept over at her house many times and I loved her family as well. We even went on holidays together. I think the reason we aren't as close anymore is partly because I was always afraid I was going to get replaced. It seemed like she was always making a new best friend and it made me feel really insecure but I never told her that. In retrospect, I know that being insecure was my problem and of course she should have had other friends. Anyway, after school ended we kind of tried to keep in contact via facebook but I've never been great at that so we've slowly grown apart. Also she moved a few hours away so it's hard to see her in person as well. Now I recieve a message from her every now and then but it's not the same. I feel like we've both kind of changed a bit as people. I regret that I let insecurity cause me to doubt our friendship and that I became so withdrawn after school. But I am thankful for what we had and I'm glad we had some great times together as kids.

In first grade, I met someone with who I'd become very close friends. We spent a lot of time together, and we considered each other best friends. I remember towards the end of first grade, he had a birthday party and invited me and that was the first time that our parents met. My mom and his mom are extremely close friends too, even seven years later. We were in the same class in first and second grade, and I loved our friendship. In third grade though, I transferred to another school in the same school district because I got into the advanced program, but we still kept in touch. Our moms, knowing how precious our friendship was, arranged trips and stuff during summer break. I remember we went to Seattle and Vancouver for a week-long vacation, and that was really fun. In fourth grade though, we started to grow apart, and by fifth grade we didn't talk very often. However, in sixth grade, both of us got accepted into the same private school, and we were both really excited about it. We started to become close friends again, but not as close as we were in first through third grade. But we're still pretty close friends. We chat a lot, and we help each other with homework and stuff. But I'm scared that our friendship will fall apart again. For high school, I'm trying to get into another private school - actually my school's rival, because of a thing that happened in the high school at my current school. I don't know if he's planning to apply there either, and I haven't been brave enough to ask. I really hope so though.

In sixth grade, I met another friend. We met in cross-country early on in the school year through a mutual friend, and we grew very close very quickly. I remember when we were joking about how we sent about a hundred emails a day (which was an exaggeration to an extent, it was 50ish lol). We were really close friends, and we remained so through sixth grade and most of seventh grade. We had a falling out in seventh grade though, and we didn't talk to each other for a few weeks. We then started messaging each other again and became friends again, but our friendship was never the same. We're still friends, but we have occasional falling-outs.

Another friend that I consider myself to be very close to is one I've just gotten close with this year. Last year, she was in my advisory, and we were friends, but we weren't very close, but this year we're in the same advisory again, and we became very close because we were the only girls in my advisory that were in our specific friend group. Over the first month or so of school, we always chatted in advisory and we were pretty close. But a few weeks ago, another one of our friends came back to in-school learning from being a remote student. The two of them have been hanging out a lot more lately, but we still talk and message each other sometimes.

I thought I had a best friend that would end up to a long-lasting friendship. I met her in 6th Grade, although we ended up going to different high schools, we still hung out over the weekend and sometimes go play tennis after school. I had treated her as my best friend, after graduation, I moved out of town for University and we stayed in touch through email for a year. I dropped out in my second year and returned home, only to find out we were moving to a city about an hour drive away from our hometown. At that time, I still considered her as my best friend, for the next 7 years, her boyfriend would sometimes drive her out to where I was and we'd grab a bite together. Or sometimes, I would meet her at a shopping centre in the middle. Once a month we would meet up. After those 7 years, my dad retired and we moved back into our hometown. In the first year of moving back, I met with her for one last time. I felt like I had to call off our so-called "best friend" status. All those years we've been friends, not once did she take the initiative to ask me out. Guess what she tells me, "I've always been l like this, and you knew all along". So, all those years, she did not change one bit, nor did she try and keep our friendship when I mentioned I wanted to call off our friendship. It's been about 3 years now, we don't even text each other. We did in the first year, but just greetings for holidays and birthdays. Now, I don't even know how things are going for her. I only know she had a son about a year ago. She ended up marrying the guy she met in high school, and they moved into a townhome, living with her in-law (because her mother-in-law passed away from cancer a year before they got married, so that her father-in-law isn't by himself, they live together). They also have cats, like maybe 3-4, don't remember how many.

And that's my story of a friendship that I once had starting in my teens. I'm currently friendless. Back to being a loner, and getting close to my mid-30s!~