The Self-Esteem Challenge: Being Comfortable in a New Setting

Hello everyone 💜

@Bubblegumwings1234 and I discussed "Being Comfortable in a New Setting" on Saturday morning with some incredible folks from 7 Cups at The Relationship Support Room as a part of the Self-Esteem Challenge Event. Below are some takeaways that I managed to note down. Feel free to add more answers, thoughts, and inputs:

Consider the following hypothetical scenario: You are starting a new school/ work and today is your first day. What usually creates nervousness in this kind of situation? What possibly can cause that anxiety?
Answers:

• The fear to fit in, making mistakes in work, if you will get accepted, or if you will feel comfortable there.
• Uncertainty of what to expect.
• Making new friends could cause anxiety.
• Body image issues.
• Anxiety and social anxiety.
• Shyness.
• Self-conscious.
• Fear of rejection.
• Trust issues.
• Awkward silence.
• High expectations.

What can we do to be more relaxed in this kind of new setting concerning previous answers?
Answers:

• Doing some affirmations to yourself. Tell yourself that people will like you,
• Listen to relaxing music or deep breathing to avoid getting too anxious.
• Mindful to not expecting too much at the first time.
• Research to know as much as we can about the new settings can also help lower the tension. Understand more about what to expect.
• A toolbox of coping strategies that we can use in various situations
• Focus on listening to what others are saying and smiling in response. If we show serious faces, we can come across as rude.
• Be ourselves and remind ourselves that the other person is as human as us.
• Tell ourselves that we are talking to humans who have similar experiences, and at the end of the day, no one is perfect and super okay to be ourselves.

What usually makes you more relaxed and comfortable when you're meeting old friends?
Answers:

• The difference when you meet old friends is that people change over time. You don't know how much they have changed.
• We can be more ourselves with old friends.
• Familiarity creates some level of comfort.

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