Why?

 Your question touches on a very sensitive and important point. I'll do my best to answer clearly and with understanding, drawing from both Islamic and general perspectives, and including some beautiful Quranic phrases.hope that my answer may help..

General Perspective 

The idea that "Muslims hate the West and Western women" is a complete and harmful generalization. The world isn't a single entity, and neither are Muslims a homogenous group. These perceptions often stem from complex historical and political accumulations, not an inherent hatred. Experiences of Western colonialism in many Muslim-majority countries, followed by political and economic interventions, have led to feelings of mistrust or resentment among some. There's also mutual cultural misunderstanding and the negative impact of distorted media portrayals. The concept of "freedom and independence" itself can be interpreted differently; what some see as absolute freedom, others (from the perspective of their values) might view as crossing certain boundaries. This isn't a rejection of the principle of freedom itself, but rather a difference in understanding its limits.

Islamic Perspective (A Quranic and Understanding View)

Islam, at its core, is a religion of peace, justice, and mercy. There's nothing in its teachings that calls for hatred of any people or gender. On the contrary, the Holy Quran invites us to mutual acquaintance and cooperation, as Allah says: "O mankind, indeed We have created you from male and female and made you peoples and tribes that you may know one another. Indeed, the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous of you. Indeed, Allah is Knowing and Acquainted." (Quran 49:13). This verse emphasizes human diversity as a means for understanding and familiarity, not for conflict and hatred.

As for respecting cultures and women:

• Respect for Cultures: Islam respects cultural diversity. Islamic law allows for the adoption of "customary practices" ('urf) as long as they don't contradict the fundamental principles of the religion. This provides ample space for coexistence with different customs and traditions.
• Respect for Women: Islam elevated the status of women and granted them rights not known in many other civilizations at the time, such as the right to inheritance, independent financial ownership, and the right to education and work. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: "Treat women kindly." This comprehensive guidance reflects the value of respect and protection for women.
• Freedom and Independence in Islam: Islam offers a framework for freedom and independence in all aspects of life, but within ethical and moral boundaries that preserve the individual and society. Freedom in Islam isn't chaos; it's responsible freedom.

Any negative behaviors attributed to some Muslims towards others are often due to misguided interpretations of the religion or socio-political factors, and they do not represent the essence of tolerant Islam, which calls for love and forgiveness, confirming Allah's saying: "And We have not sent you, [O Muhammad], except as a mercy to the worlds." (Quran 21:107). Your personal experience as a Muslim with diverse relationships is strong evidence of this true tolerance and coexistence.