Struggling with belief

@Hoop219032 hopefully if you hear them enough you will start to accept them better 💖 gives you a giant tiny hug 💗 don't let the bad thoughts win

@Hoop219032

Hello. As you have already noticed it is really not about how you look, but about how you feel inside. That is why we talk about self-esteem. Because anybody's "worth" cannot be measured in absolute categories.

Improving your self-esteem might appear to be long, narrow and winding road - at least at the very beginning. But it helped me a lot many years ago, and is still helping me right now. So, I believe, whether it's books about the subject or talking to a therapist, it is worth trying.

As for looks, even we, men, have some field for experimenting. For example: We can wear long or short beard, or no beard, or a moustache. Several years ago I decided to be a bald man for one summer - and it was also interesting.

But, as I said, it matters the most how you feel inside. For example, when a person with a low self-esteem loses their job, they may tend to think "I am lost. I am hopeless!". While a person with some healthy self-esteem may say: "OK. So it's time for changes now", or: "I knew I deserved trying something new, or maybe better" - with the circumstances being the same.

@Hoop219032 the mind is a complex organ. Not everything it tells you is true. ❤️

@Hoop219032 I experience this too. When I get compliments I feel guilty because I have trouble believing them. I think when we’ve been hurt a lot in the past, it’s so hard to believe someone would do that to us that we start to tell ourselves it must be true. It just doesn’t make sense for anyone to be so cruel. When someone tells us the opposite, our minds wonder why the others couldn’t be that way too, could it possibly be true? At least I think this is the way my mind works about things.