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What permissions would you give yourself?

User Profile: Dalyaa
Dalyaa May 11th, 2025

Hello everyone, We all face challenges in life that chip away at our self-esteem and trust. Many of us have experienced trauma during childhood or other stages of our lives. As a result, we develop coping mechanisms and adopt new behaviors—often becoming self-critical and self-judgmental, which is my focus today. Ask yourself these questions: Are you your own worst enemy? Do you harshly criticize yourself for every little mistake you make? Have you become a perfectionist to the point that it drains you and hinders your progress in life? Do you rarely, if ever, give yourself credit for your small successes? If your answer is yes, then you are the audience I am addressing here. I know someone who has been limiting her life and potential because she is afraid to take risks and lacks trust in what the future holds for her. Her therapist assigned her a task that I found interesting and would like to share with you. What "permissions" do you realize you need to give yourself, and why? For example, I should give myself permission to make mistakes. Making mistakes allows me to be curious and explore life more freely. Let me hear from you.

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User Profile: cyanessence
cyanessence May 13th, 2025

@Dalyaa

I should give myself permission to be forgiving of myself. Being human means making mistakes, but holding onto those mistakes forever is fruitless.

I should rather acknowledge what went wrong, try to understand why, and then forgive and let go. Not necessarily forget, but stop torturing myself by dredging up regrets.

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User Profile: Dalyaa
Dalyaa OP May 15th, 2025

@cyanessence that was very beautiful. 

I love the how you described holding on to mistake being "fruitless" 

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User Profile: PourOurHeart
PourOurHeart May 15th, 2025

@Dalyaa

Permission to take a break to rest and heal myself