Will plastic surgery buy my way into a relationship?
I've always been rejected when looking for a partner and have started to self-improve hoping I could mitigate my flaws (personality, income, looks) and reduce chances of rejection and needless humiliation.
As I was working on myself I started to feel like maybe my personality isn't as bad as I thought. After all, I've seen people who got away with far worse behavior and still managed to get into relationships.
What they all did have in common is looks. They all look very presentable in ways I really can't. They are fairly tall with great heads of hair whereas I am bald at just 27 years old and extremely short in stature.
I think no amount of working on myself will be enough to compensate for these flaws because no matter how good the inside of a product is no one will bother to buy it if the package is unappealing.
What are your thoughts? Should I just save for a hair transplant (and other procedures if necessary)? All input is appreciated, thank you.
@SoulofFate
I can understand you need to be able to talk to someone before they see the person inside... i used to think it is the person not the package that matters was fake.... but in my life the most attractive people i have encountered it was them not the clothes the hair or etc.
many of the best looking i have encountered were shallow and not worth my time or interest. Sadly younger people do not seem to get that ... if you make any changes do it for YOU ... not for what you think others want.
@SoulofFateIt’s understandable to feel discouraged when you’ve worked hard on yourself but still face challenges in forming relationships. Physical appearance can play a role in attraction, but it’s only one part of the bigger picture. Confidence, kindness, humor, and shared values often matter just as much or more in meaningful connections.
@SoulofFate nope. I’m bald and I love it. I workout. But honestly just fall in love with you. I shaved my head early because I knew I’d be balding and I get tons of compliments. Most people / women say I’m better bald than when I had hair. Plus hair doesn’t make the person. Think about the other great qualities you have and focus on those. I like my body/ my sense of humour and my bald head haha. Look for the things you love and focus on those.
I don't think you can buy your way into someone truly caring about you. If you have to do something like that the love will most likely be conditional. I would not undergo major surgery that can be permanent in order to get someone to love me personally. I can understand why you would feel this way after rejection and how the desire is there.
I hope that you are able to find the relationship you are looking for where you can be yourself, one that is improving maybe but also authentically you
I don't think you can buy your way into someone truly caring about you. If you have to do something like that the love will most likely be conditional. I would not undergo major surgery that can be permanent in order to get someone to love me personally. I can understand why you would feel this way after rejection and how the desire is there.
I hope that you are able to find the relationship you are looking for where you can be yourself, one that is improving maybe but also authentically you
@Crisprxo very true. Surgery never completes you. You can’t make someone love you!
@SoulofFateRejection can make you doubt everything about yourself, but it does not mean you are unlovable. Your worth is not decided by height or hair. Plenty of people find real relationships with the same traits you’re worried about.