once sided love
I had 3 real crushes in my whole life and all of them weren’t mutual. How can I be okay with this? I feel like that’s bc I’m ugly. But also I can’t live without crushes help. I just wanna have a crush on someone who likes me back. Is it really impossible for me? 🤷🏻♀️
Also I feel so triggered and upset when someone mentions their bf/gf I feel like I’m missing out so much bc I never had one, and I feel like i never will …
@anonyHuman933
in order to have a relationship...... it is not about a crush....it is about mutual like and connection.
That connection takes time and putting yourself out there. Not everyone we may be attracted to will respond in feeling that way back. Are these crush start in a friend group or just someone you barely know?
Example: my best relationships I was not super attracted to on first sight ..UNTIL i got to know their heart, mind and humor etc. Also knew some who were very attractive at first sight...... but were not even interesting once they opened their mouth. If someone else has bf/gf and that is upsetting for you why?
NO one is keeping score of who is in a couple and who is not.... if you are keeping score, what are the rules in your scorecard.? ... who scores higher? does more dating experience outweigh a couple who only dated each other no one else?
When you start defining the scorecard ....you see how too many options and if ,and or buts make the keeping score looks like a waste of time.
When we are searching for something... sometimes we can look past the place the thing we are looking for is our focus is to narrow....
It upsets me bc I want it too, they have a bf bc they are pretty im average maybe and it’s not enough for them to like me back 🙄
@anonyHuman933
When you meet someone that gets you........ you will be more then enough..... you will not even remember when you felt you were not. the song "you can't hurry love" is correct.... all you can do is meet people and talk to people ........not looking at every one as a possible match and before you know it .... the match will find you.
I could want naturally curly hair but not really know the downside or upkeep ... some with curly hair want straight hair .... because we do not see the whole picture.... so i can appreciate their hair or relationship without it bothering me.
But how can I be okay with it, I’m 20 and I have never been in relationship I have social anxiety and I can’t talk to anyone bc of it. And I have trust issues. I just wanna experience it too
@anonyHuman933
20 is super young there are many older then you in same shoes....
I genuinely get that you want this to happen but with relationship especially when you are young also has the chance of hurt as well... I get the social anxiety and trust takes time to build .... what you do and what steps you take are your own .... If you want change we can be the change .... we cannot do the same as we always have and expect different results ... it does not have to happen overnight.
But how people are cured from social anxiety? I’m trying to convince myself that nobody judges me and nobody cares about me but I doesn’t work, I had a crush and I wanted to talk to him but I didn’t, bc of it, now he left and I just don’t see him anymore I regret it so bad, I hate myself for being like this 😞
Then I had a crush on a girl, she was just nice to me and I thought she liked me back. But she said I wasn’t her type and rejected me and we stopped talking. That was the first time I told someone I liked them, then I decided I won’t even confess my feelings to anyone anymore
I get you. I feel the same way rn. Don’t want to make this about myself but I’m just going to tell my experience and maybe you’ll feel better knowing someone can relate. So bassically i just broke up with my bf because he said to my face ik ugly and he wasn’t a tracter to me anymore and also told me he never really liked me there was also this other boy wish I liked so very much but has bassically also rejected me in his own way. All this happened within like a few days. The other boy I once dated but I’m sure never really liked me because he is way too fine for me soemtimes I think I wished would come back to me maybe realize why I lost maybe I would be one of those girls taht the boys die over maybe because they have a glow up and they come back he never did instead I texted him and he went around to tell my friend to tell me never to text him agin on the other hand teh first boy I mentioned after trying everything to get him to like me literally loosing myself being nice to me even when he was mean when he ignored my text messages called me names or Ben when he told me that other girls were better than me or taht I’m not fine he didn’t like me. I feel so undesirable and unloveable so I get what you mean and there is this other which evryone says she ahead a glow up wich her ex wants to come back to her and is practically begging for her back but no one has ever done taht for me I sit and cry and I’ve cried realizing taht all this soin I go through maybe I wouldn’t go through it if I was fine or one of those girls people were suprised to see bug at the end of the day I can’t change how I look this is me you know
I feel you girl m. I’m going through a similar thing rn feeling like maybe it’s because I’m ugly tahts why people are rejecting me. Ike till really struggling myself with all these emotions too but the little I could say is I’m sure your beautiful and remebe always look at the bigger picture life is way bigger than you think. I’ve listened to Mny adults talk and heard differnet things and life is just not always going to end up the way you think. The people you think jow have all the boyfriends and are experiencing all this you might fall in love and have a better relationship than them wish leads to a a fulfilling marriage or whatever advancement you would like. I’m sure your beautiful but I’m also sure your still young grow become better work ok yourself Mr don’t let crushes and relationships be the centre of why you live because trust me learning taht the hard way rn you will never find true happiness because it comes from within you and not from validation from anyone else. I hope the little I had to say helped 😊
This is the situation of most of the people like us I think and what you said is helpful but is hard to remind this to the mind who just want a relationship.
