the cause
i think the whole reason I became this way was because of self awareness. and thats the worst part, i genuinely hate who i am as a person. its not just how i look, but how i act, i hate the sound of my own voice yet i still hear it in my head, i hate how i perceive myself and everything around me. how am i supposed to fix this?
@raspberryhoney3
@raspberryhoney3
I think it takes time, and quite possibly therapy. There's a chance that as you spend more time observing others, you may feel less alone as you see that so many others are also dissatisfied with themselves.
One thing that seems to be universal is that everyone, even the most beautiful people find flaws in their appearance and wish something about themselves was different. Along with that, it's rare that people are satisfied with their personality. I suppose there's a measure of validity to such self-criticisms, but the question is, why is it so easy to see our flaws, and so hard to accept that we have a lot of positive attributes as well?
How are you supposed to fix this?
Do you need to fix what’s really not broken? The world is full of people of all shapes, sizes, personality types, etc. Among them, do you see any that deserve to be hated, based on what nature gave them to work with?
If you met someone who was much like you in appearance and personality, would they deserve to be hated?
I’d bet my life that there are those who love the sound of your voice. More importantly, I think they love who you are, regardless of the nature of your voice.
Self-awareness includes things like integrity, intention, empathy, compassion, skills and aptitudes. Maybe “fixing this” involves accepting the entirety of your nature, rather than just the characteristics you’ve decided not to like.
There’s a possible negative feedback loop here, where depression is causing a low self-concept, and the negative self-concept is feeding the depression. Also, depression causes irritability, which is commonly self-directed. For example, hearing your voice while in a good mood can be a pleasant experience, but if you’re irate, the sound of your voice is likely to be irritating.
If you had a friend who had that kind of thing going on, what would you tell them?
I’ve no doubt that you’re a kind person. As a kind person, you’re far better at expressing kindness towards others, if you’re also kind towards yourself. That’s because self-kindness very much helps one to understand what form kindness should take when expressing it towards others.
I must admit, it’s easier to like yourself while you’re being kind to others.
Feel free to message me if you wish.
I feel you! And I’m still battling this. There are things I do like about myself, and there are things I feel wise about, but I’m sad.
One thing I’m trying to do which surprised me that it helps at least for me: I go to Walmart or target and I just walk and I actually look at people and I always keep a smile on my face. Not that I want a smile but I’m just trying it. I’m trying to fake it until I make it.
this feeling is a poewrful one no easlily attacked and in honesty if you fingure out where to start i'd be greatful for the insight. It's wild to hear how you sound while talking your voices echos, amps up, yet you get asked what did you say?
