Feeling like people don't like you?
Sometimes I just assume that a certain person doesn't like me. It could be subtle things. It could be they're having a bad day. But I just assume they don't like me somehow. And I try to look for all the signs that they're treating me differently to everyone else. I thought that way about one person and then the next day she literally smiled when she saw me and said hi. So I got confused.
Like I can't just make it about them having a bad day or their own issues in life.. I just feel like they don't like me and that they've changed on me now. That maybe it's something I had done or something in me.
I also used to find it hard to accept that someone likes me, just like thar. I felt like something was wrong. I would try to look for explanations.. now I've accepted it.
How do I change this? To assume based on whatever people do that they don't like me? Writing it out now it sounds absurd but I do this without thinking.
@discreetPlace4219
Well it sounds like you are a sensitive person.
You love people and you want to be accepted..
I would suggest you work on your self esteem to confront these thoughts that occur. 🌲
@AsherTree
That makes sense. I am currently working on my self esteem.
Thank you for your help.
@discreetPlace4219
Hello,
That's so, so normal!! Sometimes we have a hard time believing that ppl truly like us.
I think it would be helpful to let ourselves feel that feeling of not being liked; only afterwards could we start thinking if this feeling was justified or not. Usually, it's not going to be. But it's very important not to run away from the feeling, not to ignore it; even if we understand logically that the feeling is unfair, let it go through our body.
Best wishes!!!
@ivoryGrapefruit7370 Oh that's quite interesting. Yes sitting with feelings have helped me as well but I've never tried it with the distrustful feelings like this one. Thank you.
@discreetPlace4219
I think that's really normal, and I do it all the time. I think a good thing to do is that every time you catch yourself doing that, just think to yourself, "What did this person do that made me feel like this?" And you can decide if it seems realistic that they don't like you, like if they have insulted you, laughed at you, or disregarded your emotions, or if they were just having a bad day or made a mistake.
@RayniDayAmbience Okay it's such a relief to know that it's normal! I thought I was over-exaggerating. But yes as long as we're being rational about it and not making it all about ourselves. Thank you
@discreetPlace4219
Many people have these feelings they think others do not like them. They may read looks or gestures and think they mean something else. it is so easy to do. it also is very isolating always looking for signs or assuming looks meant something else. did it for a long time wish I realized I was not correct and avoided people or missed out on friends....... because of a bad day or a shy person not talking was seen as they did not like me.
i completely relate to this 🫂
i feel like i'm spiraling away from my social life because i'm assuming they don't like me and i back off because i'm afraid of rejection. i'm afraid that they secretly think i'm annoying for hanging out with them, so i reach out less.
but i guess it's about innocent unless proven guilty ❤️🩹 i just have to assume the best, that they do like me, until they tell me upfront they don't. because if they don't communicate with me, it's on them.
i understand your worries; it's so difficult to shake them off.. but what worked for me was just to assume the best or ask them myself if i did anything wrong. 100% of the times they say no! 💕
best wishes 💗
@discreetPlace4219
Yes I always feel like someone doesn’t like me. But that’s bc I was never accepted till I joined this community. Yes that is a true story. Even my own family doesn’t accept me. The other reason is no matter what the reality is not everyone in the world will like you. It may be hard for some people or for everyone to accept that but that’s just a part of life.
