Self-Expectations
We can be the harshest critics to ourselves.
Are you expecting too much from yourself to be perfectly flawless, or are you more forgiving and gentle with yourself?
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@amiablePeace77
I've learnt we can only do our best and sometimes we have to be gentle, know our limits and move past things 💛
@amiablePeace77 Are you expecting too much from yourself to be perfectly flawless, or are you more forgiving and gentle with yourself?
not flawless but alert and aware trying to avoid thinking and acting that leads to negative results. i fail to do that sometimes, but more and more I decrease the length of time before I wake up and take a step back and apologize for my over reaction.
@soulsings
I'm glad you're aware and willing to say sorry when it's appropriate.
@amiablePeace77
We can be the harshest critics to ourselves.
Yes we absolutely can without a doubt. Admittedly I still am the harshest critic to myself but not as harsh and not as many times as I used to be
Are you expecting too much from yourself to be perfectly flawless, or are you more forgiving and gentle with yourself?
I always used to expect so much from myself and thought of myself as a failure when I didn’t reach those expectations but then I realized that those expectations were not mine. Some of them carried over from my family, other expectations carried over from society, etc. And I realized not meeting any of them did not make me a failure. It just meant I lived differently than others which there was nothing wrong with. I’m more self aware and self conscious of myself and my actions now too both at home and in public.
@akunknown
Life can be tough when we try to meet others' expectations, thinking they are our own!
Great that you've become more aware of yourself and your actions, both at home and around others.
@amiablePeace77
At this point with my health, I am way more gentle with myself than I have ever been 😃
We can be the harshest critics to ourselves.
Are you expecting too much from yourself to be perfectly flawless, or are you more forgiving and gentle with yourself?
@Fradiga
Sometimes, we need to be really gentle with ourselves. I would wish, though, the circumstances would be different for you.