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Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check In Friday 27th October 2017

User Profile: Softwhispers
Softwhispers October 27th, 2017

Good morning everyone, Let's focus on memory today. Wikipedia says Memory is described by psychology as the ability of an organism to store, retain, and subsequently retrieve information. When an individual experiences a traumatic event, whether physical or psychological, his or her memory can be affected in many ways. For example, trauma might affect his or her memory for that event, memory of previous or subsequent events, or thoughts in general. So what can we do to help ourselves remember things. I'd recommend writing to do list. They have really helped me. Written by JAMES HOPPER AND DAVID LISAK. First, let's consider the prefrontal cortex. This part of our brain is responsible for executive functions including focusing attention where we choose, rational thought processes and inhibiting impulses. You are using your prefrontal cortex right now to read this article and absorb what we've written, rather than getting distracted by other thoughts in your head or things going on around you. But in states of high stress, fear or terror like combat and sexual assault, the prefrontal cortex is impaired sometimes even effectively shut down by a surge of stress chemicals. Most of us have probably had the experience of being suddenly confronted by an emergency, one that demands some kind of clear thinking. Written by Scott H Young & Capture Dave Allen fans will be familiar with this one. The best way to remember things is to not use your brain. I carry around a small paper booklet where I can write down tasks, ideas and commitments to be sorted later. Writing things down is probably the best tip I can provide for people struggling to keep track of everything.Despite what some GTD cultists might say, I don't think that a capture device is enough. Maybe it is just me, but I've found many situations where you will need to use your brain and times when you will be without your notepad. Carrying around a book will definitely help, but these other tricks can be useful when it isn't enough.2) LinkA memory trick I learned over a year ago is the link technique. This works incredibly well whenever you need to remember a sequence of information. I've used this technique to memorize presentations I've had to give and as a backup if for some reason I can't use my notepad.The link technique works by associating two concepts together through a mental image. By linking together mental images you can store long sequences of information together flawlessly after just a minute or two of rehearsal. As a simplified example, let's say you wanted to memorize this short grocery list:Baked Beans Milk Squash Toilet Paper You would start by linking beans to milk. To do this you would visualize a completely exaggerated scene involving the two. A mental picture of a eating a giant bowl of baked beans with milk pouring in it would be an example. The image has to be incredibly unrealistic and exaggerated to stick in your memory. An image of a can of beans next to a carton of milk probably wouldn't stick.After you visualize that mental picture strongly for a few seconds, make another link. This time you would link milk and squash. You could imagine a scene where there is a field of squash vines growing, but instead of gourds, you only see large cartons of milk. Something that ridiculous will form a good link.Keep going through the list until you have linked up all of the images. With practice you can do this in about 3-5 minutes even for a list as long as 20-30 items. After you have done this it should be easy to move from one link to the next. The beans/milk image will remind you of the milk/squash image.This technique works great for presentations when you don't want to use notes.3) PegThe link technique is fine for concepts, but what about remembering phone numbers or things out of sequence?The peg technique is an advanced form of the link technique so that you don't have to refer to items in order. The actual peg technique makes use of a phonetics system for the digits 0-9 so you can remember up to hundreds of numbers in sequence. I'm not interested in these party tricks, so I've come up with a simpler, more practical system that takes less time to learn.With this system you can use up to ten items to ten numbers in your head, or remember a string of digits. To do it, I just came up with rhyming mechanism to provide an image for each of the ten digits: Zero Hero One Gun Two Shoe Three Tree Four Door Five Hive Six Sticks Seven Heaven Eight Grate Nine Wine Now in order to remember a phone number, you would just form links between each of the numbers in sequence. 791 might start with some cherubs carting huge bottles of wine in the clouds (heaven + wine) and then have an image of a bottle of Merlot shooting someone (wine + gun). Then when you get the images played back you can remember what they rhyme with to decode the number.You can memorize items without using a list by linking up to ten ideas to each of the number concepts. This can be useful when you don't need to remember things in a particular order and don't want to forget one from a broken link.4) TriggerAnother way to help boost your memory is to place strategic triggers when you need them. I find this useful if I need to remember something in an hour or two, but I'm worried I might not check my capture device by the time I need to remember.If I'm doing laundry and want to remember to put in another load, I might put a laundry basket near my door to remind me to check. This works well when you don't want to distracted with timers. I also use this method if I want to remember something when leaving the gym by placing something on or in my bag.If you have Post-It notes, these can work great to trigger your memory specifically when you need it.5) NamesThe best advice I have for remembering names is to use them immediately after you hear them. If you are talking to someone new at a gathering and they introduce themselves, don't just make a mental note of their name, use it. Verbalizing a name makes it far easier to remember later. I try to use a name at least once or twice in the first few minutes after hearing it to make it stick.Another method I've found helpful in remembering names is to associate the name. Unless it is a particularly unusual name, you probably already know someone with the same name. Making a mental note that the new person you just met, Jonathan has the basically the same name as your friend, John, will make it easier to recall the name later.6) HelpersIf you need to remember something, ask someone you are with to remind you. As in, Can you remind me to buy the tickets before we leave the mall? Relying on the other person isn't why this usually works. Usually the other person will forget unless it is something important to them as well or they have an excellent memory.Instead, I've found asking someone to remember something for you makes your memory stronger. I'm three or four times more likely to remember if I verbalize the need to someone I'm with. Something about requesting someone to remind you makes the memory stronger to avoid looking forgetful.7) OrganizeAbsent-mindedness can make you forgetful, but usually most memory troubles are due to a lack of organization. Take the time to get a calendar, to-do list and filing system so you don't have to burden your memory. I've been able to remember far more ever since I made organizing a habit.Why These WorkMemory works by association. A trigger reminds you of something else. The link and peg techniques work well because you the associations are so exaggerated your brain deems them important. Your brain deems that a vivid image of a giraffe holding an umbrella while it rains frogs as more unique then just everyday images. what can you do to better help your memory? 2. Have you had issues with your memory?

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User Profile: Kuma0187
Kuma0187 October 27th, 2017

I have not read any of that very long post about memory. Apologies, because it seems you have put a lot of work into your thoughts. I am worried reading it will make me think about things I just don't want to right now because I have had a good day and I am about to go to sleep so I want to keep the chilled feeling I have.

But I did want to check in.. because that seems to be helping me to just say hi to some folks from time to time :)

Today I have cleaned for a friend, the one I hope will become my boyfriend again soon :) Done my shopping, visited a friend, collected some furniture and then I drove to the coast and went swimming in a cold sea of the coast of Holland (where I live by the way) for an hour. It was so beautiful. I had only planned on half an hour's swimming.. but it was too awesome, I didn't want to come back to the shore. There was the beginning of a sunset and a huge rainbow. Sometimes I feel like the sea just wants me to stay and play. And then I realise my feet are might go numb and all the people on the beach are wearing jackets haha. So I swam back before it got too cold. I felt so alive today. After a long run of bad days I needed that. Just wanted to share.

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User Profile: Compassionatelistener108
Compassionatelistener108 October 27th, 2017

@Kuma0187

Hi Kuma,

I am so happy that you had a good day today. It sounds picture perfect to me. I hope you were able to hold on to those positive feelings for a while and simply reflect on those wonderful moments. Thank you for sharing this with everyone.

User Profile: melliotm
melliotm October 27th, 2017

@Kuma0187 aw that's wonderful to hear -- sounds like you had a delightful day! Embrace the moment. 💛⛺

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User Profile: Compassionatelistener108
Compassionatelistener108 October 27th, 2017

Hi,

I appreciate you sharing some of the things that work well for you. Memory is such a complex and often sensitive issue for many of the people who are going through the healing process. I think that everyone moves at his or her own pace once stabilization occurs. From my own experience, even the simple activities of daily life were often difficult as dissociation was my primary coping mechanism from the time I was very young. It took me a long time to achieve some of the goals mentioned. Looking back on things I would not have been able to rush through my process without losing so many other wonderful new coping skills.

Somehow everything became much better with hard work, knowing when to take a break and simply accepting where I was in the process in that particular moment.

I hope everyone is doing okay today. Hugs to those of you who have not had a good day. To those of you who have I wish you more positive moments to reflect upon. 💛

User Profile: inventiveOrange1
inventiveOrange1 October 28th, 2017

@Softwhispers thanks. Sorry late reply. Have seen alot of issues with memory since the trauma six months ago. Its worsening. Makes work difficult. Go blank remembering med names or connections clinically. Finding everything takes longer. Am paranoid about making a mistake which triggers more bad stuff there.

End up taking alot out on me there which escalating. Havent needed to get aid for anything ive done yet but isnt far off.

Have used the link system and using names often to help. I remember my dad using the memory game with items under a hanky on a bed when we were little. It works sometimes.

Wishing everyone peace. Hugs

User Profile: DeborahUK
DeborahUK October 28th, 2017

@Softwhispers

This is super interesting and has a number of techniques I