Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-In Monday January 8th 2018
Hi everyone! How has your first week of the new year been? No topic today, I just want to know how you all are doing! ^^ As for me, I am well, the minimum wage just went up to $15 in my province so it's going to be a big change for everyone to adjust to. It'll be itneresting watching all the prices go up I think haha
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The first week of 2018 was up and down for me. I think things will get better in time, and for now I'm excited about how things are looking up 
@MoreThanAConqueror18 Yay I'm glad to see that despite some negative stuff, you're able to remain positive looking towards the future. It's a really good skill to have :)
Well, the year started with me trying to make my skin stop itching from scabies and, while it looks a billion times better, the itch is still there. I am also losing time at work today because I
@BeeLeigh Well it sounds to me like you're getting all your bad luck out of the way nice and early. Expectations start low, and now your year has nowhere to go but up! Yaaay! What are you looking forward to this year?
@Hoxenos
Finishing my Sophomore year of college, starting my Junior year, and finishing the first semester of my Junior year 🙌🏻
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@Hoxenos
It was nice day but as usualy stressed at night
@conscientiousPineapple1782 Why do you find yourself feeling stressed at night?
@Hoxenos
just anxiety
@conscientiousPineapple1782 And is your anxiety about the night itself, about the next day or just in general, do you think?
@Hoxenos
It's almost all day could say but at night worst.
@Hoxenos
wow 15$ would be real nice amount to get payed. i hope you are well Hoxenos. I've been feeling panicky all morning. like hypervigilance i think yall said it was. but i have been trying to steer that energy into working faster, its not the greatest fix, but its keeping my stress down a bit. my boss just thinks i drank an energy drink so no drama from it. but this isn't super fun. ill have to go back to work soon, but hope your new year is well.
@Sk1ttlesI"m sorry to hear that you were hypervigilant at work today. Do you ahve any grounding or soothing exercises? There are a few soothing visualization exercises out there that can be quite good. Like full body relaxation or the safe place visualization. There are scripts you can read or recordings on youtube, perhaps they could help you next time this happens.
The first week went alright! For a while, Ive been taking steps to recover from a traumatic incident that happened last year. I stumbled a few times while recovering, but I really am improving I think.
@quixoticRaven I'm glad to hear that you're improving! A place I used to volunteer at used to say that recovery isn't a straight line. It's more like a ribbon, spiralling, sometimes up, sometimes down, sometimes tangling a bit, but it does eventually make its way from one end to the other :) You'll get there.
@quixoticRaven
I am so happy that you are beginning to feel the benefits of the difficult work you have be doing in order to heal. It is very inspiring for so many. Thank you for sharing 💛
Year started with some huge, yet needed changes mindset wise.Now I'm trying to get back to work and my normal day life...and it's so, so, so hard...I'm not even sure where to get the strength needed because it's so hard.Even smallest things of self-care seems like...greatest battle xD So it's definitely a very challenging time.Even despite it all...I try to not freak out and lose my head completely at which I'm succeeding.Before I wuld have a meltdown and I would be overwhelmed by fear and the amount of things I must do, must be able to do...but now I can remain somewhat calm and have faith in myself and my ability to figure things out.Will try to find some more ways how to fuel up and get the strength needed to take care of myself and get myself together...and will continue the Great Battle of Starting a New Life.xD
@Morfo66 Yaaaay Morfo you're doing the thing! I'm glad to hear that things are getting easier and that your attitude change is helping. It can be an incredibly difficult thing, to change how you think, and I think it's wonderful that you are doing so well with ti and it is helping you so much! ^^
first week relatively good - as it pertains self exploration and changes. on the job front not so good! but i am still trying
@orchard9786 I like your priorities, either way. You are having good self exploration and that is so super healthy. I would love to hear what you've been doing on that front, if you're comfortable sharing. Sometimes talking it out can enable even further understanding. If not that's totally cool. And jobs will come, it's really only a matter of time ^^
@Hoxenos thanks Hoxenos. I sometimes feel desperation creep in with the Job front. Well on self exploration I have been meditating more. I have found out about myself that i have boundary issues and attachment issues in my current relationships.
there was one exercise i did on thee growth path that asked me to recall a time in my childhood where i did not feel loved or noticed by my parents. It was hard since i grew up with overprotective parents showering love on me but i did the exercise and I found a memory buried deep in my mind. it was when the family made a big move- countries apart- i was 11 years old and i had to learn a new language [english]. that time was extremely hard for me at school and at home since i noticed that i had latent anger toward my parents who at that time did not noticed nor understood the incredibly frightening time i had acculturating and learning the language. I remember turning from an outgoing child to a very shy kid who barely spoke and felt lonely, unloved, misunderstood and at the same time i clinged on to my parents for dear life.
I spent years blocking out that time and now that i am putting myself to comb through those memories once again i understand that the issues i have are related to that drastic change. I understand the overattachment and clinginess and then shutting people out of my life is the pattern and way i have approached all types of relationships i have had since then.
I am still processing but this is what i got so far. I blame no one. I am thankful actually because now i know what i need to work on to improve myself.
I guess I am dealing better. I still want to never let go of my dad
@streamoftears I'm glad to hear that you're doing better. I don't think it's necessary to "let go" of people or whatever euphamism people want to use. You know you best and so you know what you need. Letting go, moving on, moving past, forgetting, those are all terms that only have the meaning you give to them. Find what works for you while keeping you healthy. Do what you need to do, take care of yourself.
My first week has been really bad but Im taking the steps needed to ensure Im safe again. I hit a real low yesterday and Im just trying to pick myself back up. That small bit of trust I was building has been shattered 😞
@calmLake1999 I'm glad you're trying to be safe! Good luck, we're all here for you, I hope you feel better soon!
@calmLake1999 Aw Lake I'm sorry. Do you want to talk about what happened? If not, as it has to do with trust so I totally understand not wanting to talk about it with someone, then I'm proud of you for listening to yourself. I'm super happy that it sounds like you're putting yourself first, even if things didn't work out. Hopefully this is a learning opportunity?? Just trying to see the positives I guess >.<
@Hoxenos
Thanks hox.. Sorry for the late reply.. I've talked about it with a some listeners its hard just knowing that I slowly started to build trust (against my better judgment) to have it crushed again.. I appreciate all the support
@calmLake1999
I am so sorry you are going through such a difficult situation. I am thankful that you are considering your safety above all else. Please reach out to any of us and certainly those around you for support. I am truly sorry someone betrayed your trust. I hope that you will be able to allow some individuals in to help you through this. You will be in my thoughts.
@Compassionatelistener108
Thanks comp.. Just got to take it one step at a time.. I've started retreating from those around me again but its not like any of them care anyway.. Ill just work my way though this again. Thanks for you support 💖