Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-In Sunday December 24th 2017
Good Morning Everyone. These Holidays can be of such a busy and overwhelming nature, it is far too easy to get lost in it's maddness. The best of intentions in persuit of the perfect family holiday can bring much frustration. The busy rush in public, the excess of bright lights and loud holiday musik, traveling to the home of a family member, did my ham come out perfect? Did I buy the one most desired gift? How to stretch the money and pay for it alle? Perhaps there is a family member you wish to avoid. Maybe you wish to be alone and hide in your room. Maybe your faith doesn't have a holiday in this season. Perhaps you are alone, watching the world around you enjoy in the bonds of family you don't have. It can alle be so overwhelming and suffocating, making us want to scream Calgon Take Me Away!!!
Stop! Breathe. Don't fall for a maddness we created for ourselves. Just as here we have or are learning to accept our imperfections, learn to accept the imperfections of a day. Don't allow yourself to be driven by the stress of others. Slow down, sit back and watch the big show. Remember to step apart from everything. Take moments to gather and ground yourself. This is alle supposed to be fun, remember? Did the Burger Meister Meister Burger become so evil and oppressive because he lost his Choo choo and forgot how to play?
Whether you are full on busy with a huge gathering or alle alone, What are 3 things you intend to do for yourself today for your own happiness? This is a safe place and it belongs to you! Do be free to say hi, let us know how you are doing, share your joy or your woe. We are alle here for each other. Don't forget to smile and laugh.
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3 things ~ 1. A Good Book to distract me from my gloomy thoughts; 2. Cook a delicious warm meal for myself: 3. Catch up on revision
Sounds boring :0 Oh well
Christmas as a student :0
@MayaCarino The revision part may be less fun. Student eh? Hmm, pleanty of adventure to be found in the Halls of Hogwarts. 
@Raveninthelabrynth
LOL :) Hopefully these adventures are something worth looking forward too :)
@MayaCarino
That sounds like a good plan before you venture back into the student life again. Enjoy your break and your evening.
@Raveninthelabrynth
Hi uhm yesterday I have been a bit unwell and emotional and so it continues today. Im also a bit stressed bc i want to do some things like buying stuff but my mom has other plans and that makes me angry cause we have already decided from the previous day what we are going to do and she always makes her plan for herself :(
@sensitiveShade5337 Chill hon, alle will be fine. Ovten we make a solid plan, but we for get that everyone else has their plan in their head too. Perhaps you were both on the same page but Mum took out a different book. Go with it hon, be patient and adapt to change. You will get your chance to shop. Be calm and say ok I need to switch over to this for a few whiles, then I'll get my chance. If you flow with the changes in life, things will go much smoother hon. Hugs :)
@Raveninthelabrynth
it did get better and I actually went shopping and was so fun!! I got some gloves, a nice warm jacket for my dog and I felt the Christmas spirit everywhere! :) I'm just tired right now hoping I can take a nap before it's time to go somewhere else 😬
@sensitiveShade5337 Glad to hear it hon. Chill, "The universe tends to unfold as it should."
@Raveninthelabrynth
aha it's my fault, I tend to overreact :/
@sensitiveShade5337 Well Hoot an Phoohey Shade!!!
@sensitiveShade5337 lol Relax, take a moment to look out the window ansee something beautiful. 
@Raveninthelabrynth
Even when seeing something beautiful there's always something negative that let you there is there
I will write because it makes me feel better. I will wrap the gifts I got my daughter. I know she will be excited when she sees them. Last thing I am going to try and sleep. Sleep is an issue for me and when I don't get enough it makes things worse. These are my goals for today.
@Longday08 They sound like very good ones for the day. I wish you the best of times with your Daughter this holiday. And I do hope you rest easy hon.
My Grampa
@BeeLeigh
Bee, that was such a kind thing to do. I am happy that your holiday season is going well. Enjoy your visits and Merry Christmas 🎁🎄 ❤️
Aw, thanks @Compassionatelistener108!! 😁🎄☃️🎁🎅🏼❤️💚
@BeeLeigh And His Name is Santy Claws!!! 
@Raveninthelabrynth
Okay, Christmas needs to leave my apartment cuz I can barely open my door now I
@BeeLeigh Stock for E-bay ;)
@BeeLeigh
😂🎅🏾🎁
@melliotm
I JUST watched this scene yesterday!!!!! Hehehehehehehe
@singercrystalspirit Hey Singer, Grand to see you. Post me sometime hon.
@Raveninthelabrynth
Thanks Raven :)
@Raveninthelabrynth
Also it was already snowing when I got up today and it hasn
@BeeLeigh Here too. I been out in it twice today riding my quad lol.
@BeeLeigh Breathe hon, we're on break! Remember?
@Raveninthelabrynth
Oh yes!! I
Today for 3 self care practises Im going to do some reading, attend yoga and practise mindfulness / grounding exercises 3x throughout the day.
Im also going to take some time to journal out some problem solving and interactions that seem to be triggering some difficult emotions for me lately. Hopefully this will help to get it out of my head and help me come up with a helpful solution.
Merry Christmas everyone!
@purpleWest8143
That is a wonderful plan! I hope you have a Merry Christmas 🎄
@purpleWest8143 That is a most excellent plan my friend. Do be well.
Happy Christmas to you!
Good afternoon everyone!
This holiday season is one of rest, rejuvenation and giving back to the community for me. I am spending the holidays babysitting my sons dog who is constantly making me laugh. I adore her.
I made some meals for a neighbor to keep on hand over the next few weeks as he is having a few health issues right now. Hopefully I havent lost my touch in the kitchen!
I was able to sleep in thanks to Ravens kind, giving spirit. Thank you Raven for all that you do for all of us 💛 It is appreciated more than you can imagine.
Life feels good today. Later this evening probably curl up with a good movie or two and enjoy some nice warm tea.
Wishing you all the best today. We will be here if anyone needs anything.
@Compassionatelistener108 My Pleasure Dear, This is what Teams do. You Totally Rock!!!
Season's greetings, trauma fam 🎅🏾🎁🎄
And blessed Modranicht, for those who commemorate Mother's Night🕯️🕯️🕯️
@melliotm
Hi Mellio! Thank you so much for all of the Holiday greetings. I hope that you have a peaceful evening celebrating (or if you are like me, relaxing).
I appreciate all you do for the trauma family and so many others 💛.
We are here if you need us ☃️.
@Compassionatelistener108 Thank you, CL -- I am indeed relaxing tonight as best I can. Self care is my gift to myself hehehehe 😊❤️ 🎁
I hope you have a pleasant, peaceful evening. Truly appreciate everything that you do for us here! 💛🎄🙏🏾
@melliotm
Thank you, Mellio. I am happy to hear you are taking good care of yourself. As Raven would say, you rock my friend! Thank you for all you do 💛 Youre always here to support everyone in the T. Family. It is greatly appreciated as the little things can make the greatest difference in someones day.
Be well and know we are always here for you if you need anything. ☃️☺️🍫
@melliotm I'm holding out forthe Santy Claws from Futurama. ;)
@Raveninthelabrynth
***Just as here we have or are learning to accept our imperfections, learn to accept the imperfections of a day. Don't allow yourself to be driven by the stress of others.*** I love this. Nobody and nothing is perfect. Remember to appreciate and cultivate the positives. Slow down, sit back and watch the big show.*** I love this. Remember to be an observer, not taking things personally, observing... Remember to step apart from everything. Take moments to gather and ground yourself.*** Doing this now by getting on here and checking in. This is alle supposed to be fun, remember?*** Yes :) Did the Burger Meister Meister Burger become so evil and oppressive because he lost his Choo choo and forgot how to play?
Whether you are full on busy with a huge gathering or alle alone, What are 3 things you intend to do for yourself today for your own happiness?*** I already went on a long walk outside - that's one. I got dressed in a way I like and posed for a picture the way I like - that's two. The third will be that I will practice a "happify" activity on my happify app and see what it reminds me to do for my positivity practices 😊
@singercrystalspirit
Isnt this an amazing way to view our world? Mindfulness has so many beautiful aspects to it and this is one of the most important. It truly teaches us to appreciate our emotions, hold them for a moment and then let them float away like the clouds.
Through this, we all learn to realize that we are in control of ourselves and cannot control the actions of others. We control the way we choose to react.
It is very freeing when we look at taking care of ourselves in this manner. It empowers us so we may choose our own path. It also energizes us so we may stand beside others as they find their way.
It is a meaningful cycle of positive, purposeful experiences that keeps us strong when life throws us challenges along the way.
Thank you very much for sharing. I wish you the best.
@Compassionatelistener108
Thank you so much for replying. I'm having a difficult end to my evening and it helped me feel stronger to read what you wrote.
There has been so much pain to come my way due to not being in control of the actions of others, and due to the way I interpret others' actions or lack of actions. Just tonight I have been trying to reframe my thoughts about certain actions from others, unsuccessfully so far, and it's worrying me, and I'm beating myself up over it and diagnosing myself with depression over it...
Thank you for the reminder to practice observing, and being neutral, and letting energy flow in and out and through.
I am noticing that not a lot of friends messaged me to tell me Merry Christmas today. I am observing that I feel sad regarding this, and that I cried. I am noticing that the guy I like has not messaged me back even though it's Christmas nor told me Merry Christmas. I am noticing that there are people messaging me to tell me Merry Christmas that I feel like me a little too much. I am noticing that perhaps there are some inequalities in my friendships. Some imbalances between who likes whom how much. Some relationships I invested very much in, who did not invest as much back. And I am noticing sadness that feels very deep. I am reminding myself that this is not permanent, even though it feels like a death sentence. My being 30 years old does not make things solidified and permanent... (does it?) any more so than my being 8 years old made things solidified and permanent (is that true?)
All I can control is who I reach out to, and how much, and how often.
I wish you the best too.
Hello and Happy Christmas Morn to you all.
Want to say to everyone that helped me get back into my account after being locked out since Wensday, Thank You and your help has been awsome.
@scarletPear1945
Merry Christmas, Scarlet! I is great to see you. I am glad you are back 🎄🎁☃️