Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-In Sunday February 4th 2018
Good Morning Alle and Welcome to a new day. 
It is still dark out. Quiet. Snow is softly falling on our fields. The cattle a few farms over have quieted down after a long night of lowing. Our horse rests, the bunnies rest, the cats and dogs rest, and the chickens rest. It's easy like a sunday morning over here. When I didn't actually live here I did so in my heart and found my peace.
What do you hold onto to find your peace? Do you have a secret spot that only you know? Some object you carry to keep you and your heart grounded? Feel free to share if you will.
I hope alle are having a pleasent day. Drop us a line, ask your questions, speak your woes, or just come and hang out with the best folks on earth. This is a chill day, and this is a safe place that belongs to you. Welcome Friends and Family.
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Hi raven,, not in a good place today,, feel like im not good for anyone,, i don't know..
I have a safe space i go to,, i call it "my" cliff though its not really,, got overtaken by tourists during holiday seasons but is secluded again,, normally can gather my thoughts and ground myself up there..
Hope you are well 
@calmLake1999 Sorry to hear you feel woe today. Anything i can do to help turn it around?
@Raveninthelabrynth
Not sure, but thanks for offering.. Just bad place,, bad week really too much emotion, memories, stress.. Trying to overcome,, really hard though at the moment..
@calmLake1999 Much Love Minn Fraendr an (((HUGE HUGS))) (ok also a care package with some chocolates, fruits, and cans of strange forign foods)
@Raveninthelabrynth
Thanks raven *hugs*
Oooh I love chocolate 😀
@Raveninthelabrynth that sounds so peaceful :D
@Jesse9675 It is my friend
Reading this made me to smile, literally felt the peace it exudes to have a moment like you just described.Moments like that for me is a biggest source of strength that fills me up like nothing else and keeps me so strong and able to not only do the minimum asked but do some superheroe level stuff as well daily.:D I'm happy today.The sun is shining, light fills the air and covers everything it touches.I'm at peace, sitting at my desk with a smile on my face.Life's good.I do a lot lately and maybe there's a need for some time off so tomorrow I'll give myself a day full of rest, play and making myself happy.Taking time to restore energy is very needed and that's a huge achievement for me personally that now I care about myself enough to not ignore my needs and wants but really pay attention and fulfill them simply because I trully care about myself and I see myself rest worthy.I think about my well being not just in a short term but long term which I just realized and that's really huge for me.Really happy to have this place and chance to check-in whenever I feel like doing so.Helps me to reflect and pause, see what's trully up and where I'm at overall.:)
@Morfo66 So happy you are finding some peace and a new outlook on things. The warm Sun you describe sounds awesome, still dark an freezing here lol. I love it, Beauty can be found everywhere.
@Raveninthelabrynth
Indeed!:) Even in most unlikely of places.
@Morfo66 At worst, I can always see Rainbows through my tears iffin I look towards the light. 
@Raveninthelabrynth
that's one of the coolest superpowers I've ever heard of.<3
@Raveninthelabrynth
Hi hi :)
I just want to share this song today with the trauma fam! https://youtu.be/vWfjlIMiqBg
and also this pic;
Have a nice day trauma fam!
@sensitiveShade5337
I love that song!! 😊💜
@BeeLeigh
I love it too! 😊
@sensitiveShade5337 Thanks Shade! ❤️⛺
@melliotm
np mellio! I hope you are doing okay 😊
@sensitiveShade5337 ❤️⛺doing my best -- hope all is well with you too!
@melliotm
Hang in there! Just coping over here
@Raveninthelabrynth
Im having a good day today. My safe place is cartoons and music.
In my darkest moments Ive turned to cartoons and theyve never failed to make me laugh once Ive dried my eyes and when I relate to characters it gives me a sense of belonging and make me remember Im not so different from other people.
I hate silence the only time I can tolerate it is when Im reading a book otherwise I feel weird like somethings wrong. Music has helped me when I was close to panic attacks and during panic attacks. It gives my brain something else to focus on helping me to start breathing properly again and when I listen to certain songs sometimes Ill get ideas for AMVs
@CartoonDarling I LoooOOoOooOOOOVe Cartoons lol :)
@Raveninthelabrynth
Really? Wow thats cool! My favorite cartoon is Ed Edd N Eddy (I think everyone knows why by now though) Whats your favorite?
@CartoonDarling I used to love that cartoon. I really loved olde Ren and Stimpy's. Still crack me to this day. Favourite episode was called "The Littlest Giant". But my more modern favourite is Metalocalypse. That just floors me. I laugh so hard I herniate myself lol. Favourite episode of that is Season 1 ep 4 "Death Troll". Totally kills me lol.
@Raveninthelabrynth
Thats great! Ive heard of Ren and Stimpy I really need to get around to watching it. Also I didnt know about Metalocalypse before but Ill be sure to check both out when I get the time thanks for the recommendation😊
@Raveninthelabrynth Ah, good old Ren and Stimpy. Daria is probably my favourite from the 90s MTV era. Also enjoy rewatching Frisky Dingo from time to time -- cracks me up with its savagely apt take on the absurdities of US politics. And King of the Hill is an underrated, humane and hilarious classic, crafting some of the most paradoxically realistic characters in TV history IMO.
@melliotm
@melliotm "Oh woe is I, the well has run dry! And the cow only gives powdered milk. I tell you no lie, my sow she doth fry! And the chickens could only lay silt."
Gooooood morning Raven! 😊
My happy place is my grandparents
@BeeLeigh Well Done B! When we start to face a trauma a bit at a time, and let it happen as you did, that is the most powerful way to take away it's strengths and effects. Awesome Job.
An I'll race ye on the quads (Total Lunachick here lol)
@Raveninthelabrynth
Thanks Raven! It was difficult to basically force myself to feel things I didnt want to, but it almost felt controlled because I knew I could make it stop if it got to be too much. There were a few times that I just like, autopiloted myself toward stopping it and I had to make a conscious effort to not make it stop. Which was difficult, cuz I was crying and I hate crying. I really needed a hug. I wouldnt exactly turn down a hug now either, so if anyones still reading this, feel free to bring on the hugs lol.
And Raven, I will race you any time! Any time in the warm weather when its not raining! We got plenty of field to work with over here! 😜💜
@BeeLeigh lol Hugs yer on!
Good work hon, it takes time and adjustments for personal ways, but that's how it's done.
I have a Italian horn necklace(silver) that I wear when I go to doctor's appointments or if I have to got to the hospital. It is sais to protect the wearer of the necklace from "the evil eye" or from any evil. I wear it whenever I go to the hospital or doctors appointments to keep me safe. It was a gift from my boyfriend for one of my birthdays, I never leave the house without it when I go to the hospital/ doctors appointments.
My secert spot (not really a secert spot, but somewhere I like very much) is my local horse track, they closed for good but they still have live races a few times a year. When I go there I have a nice time, feel welcomed and enjoy the sights and sounds just a really nice place to go to.
@MelanieDaniels63 Thanks for sharing that Melanie, I always wondered what the Italian Horn necklace was for. Perhaps this is why the Irish pronounce it "Eyetallians" lol?
Horses are wonderful, we are blessed to have our own. I find great peace hanging out and playing with our Morgan.
@Raveninthelabrynth lol, that's awesome I bet Morgan is a great horse and a pleasure to have. Have a great day/night!
@MelanieDaniels63 oh lol, her name is Sif, she is a Morgan (like the kind the U.S. Cavalry ride)
Thank You, enjoy your time as well
@Raveninthelabrynth lol oops my bad, forgive me I'm blonde lol.
I hope that Sif is a great horse to have, have a great day/night!
@MelanieDaniels63 No worries hon, I should have clarified initially thet she is a Morgan not named so lol.
Loved Harold and Maude
@Raveninthelabrynth Awesome! One of my fave movies makes me cry at the end everytime, great movie!
@MelanieDaniels63 Indeed
@Raveninthelabrynth
Hi Raven! Good to see you around. Hope you're feeling better. <3
I'm frustrated today. I have been speaking my mind about how my feelings get affected only to be totally dismissed or ignored and having the other person tell me that they can't just go around their entire life monitoring what they say. When they are a constant stream of negativity and dismissive/emotionally retarded notions.
My error in this is even thinking someone like that could understand. It's best to simply accept that this person is pretty much useless for any empathetic or human kind of contact. That they see no reason to change or grow as a person and therefore inflict their withering on others. I need to work on my ACT stuff again. To not react. Here I am nearly crying in frustration. But I do realize that projection is at work here. Projecting empathy and humanity on someone who cannot feel those kind of things. That kinda thing doesn't apply to them. When I think of my old family ties I've broken off and asked "Why?!" so many times... I know I can't apply the same emotional intelligence to them and their abuse.
Anyway, as far as a place that is healing... I go to this forest in my mind when I can't go to a forest or outside due to reasons. There's a campfire in the center and one of my spiritual influences resides there. Giving knowledge, comfort, humor, and insight to everyday things. But the most important thing I feel there is accepted. That I'm part of that tribe as well. The campfire there seems to always be lit. Sometimes I go hunting in the fields. Other times I just sit and chat with the others or watch their life and reflect on my own. It's a simple place, but it's far lovelier than any city.
@CaloenasNicobarica Hej Pigeon how wonderful it is to see you today. I am doing better thanks, a factor I must live with that comes and goes.
I' sorry to hear of your woeful interactions as of late. Everyone lives in their own worlds. To fine the ones whom do understand your plight, this is one of the best places to come. Folks whom don't have similar issues in life tend to not understand and be not the greatest about it. It's ok, we're here with you.
Well Done for catching yourself and working to change your mode.When we get to the point when we can catch or recognize when we are caught in a loop of what ever ones particular may be, that's when we really start to do effective work on ourselves.
Your Sacred Area sounds Beautiful. Dance, sing, be one with your Gods and alle the living things in the universe whilst there.
Play
@Raveninthelabrynth
Good to hear! <3
Yeah, you're right. I do feel safe here enough to express myself. It really helps when IRL things might not be so easy to do so. I'm glad for this place and the people in it. Thanks, Raven.
Eh, it's still tough and a bit gut-wrenching. Been seein' an additional therapist who has outlined some stuff pretty bluntly. So now I feel I'm even more aware of it when it happens. Disassociation is pretty much what happens when stuff like this occurs. It can be a dangerous place to fall into a loop. Still a little loopy right now, but I think I've got this! After I post this, I'm gonna read the self-help stuff thoroughly and do the exercises.
Thanks! I like it there because the clothes are simple and I have a headdress of bull horns that I earned through a journey. XD I know how fruity that sounds. Eh, it is what it is. I'll make sure to salute a raven that flies near our camp when I'm off with the tribe and Pops! Hope you have a good one! <3
@CaloenasNicobarica It's Our Pleasure to be here for you and everyone. Diving into the workbook is a great idea, use it well an it will serve you.
The first word in my name is Hrafnr, it means Raven. It is a title given to me by my folk and kin. I wear a Tork (Woven blackened steele necklace and armlet with sacred design) on my kneck and arm when I am not asleep (or in an mri lol). I also wear an Ulfr Tork on my wrist that never comes off and have several sacred tattoos. This too is cultural and sacred to me. Much Respect.
@Raveninthelabrynth I have nothing for this one. lol I just stay in my room most of the time unless I'm at college or the library.
@FangsInsanityso your solitude is your sanctuary?
and no worries, this space is yours, talk about cheese production if you wish lol
(ok maybe keep it trauma/ coping related
Thank You Alle for posting today, it was wonderful to hear from you alle.
Be Well, an Do Take Care of Yourselves.
*Raven gets up and fly's away
