Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-in Friday 13th October 2017

Happy Friday Everyone,

Today let look at how to deal with rejection. It can be very difficult to handle with any mental health issues. For me it especially hard expressing it. Plus it can be painful. Let's look at wiki How to Get Over Rejection. No matter your age, background, skills and wow factor, you're never too old, too beautiful, or too smart to be rejected. The only way to guarantee youll never be rejected is to never try to do anything and to never interact with anyone else, ever. Thats no way to live, though, so at some point, you will experience rejection in your life. Common situations for rejection include love, studies, work, sports, or business. You dont have to let rejection destroy you, however! Overcoming rejection isn't about denying or pretending everything is fine––it's about learning to cope well and move on with living. Getting Past the Initial Hurt

First, Understanding that your pain is normal. Feeling hurt after rejection is a normal human response with both emotional and physiological causes. Research has shown that experiencing unexpected rejection actually causes physical symptoms: emotional pain activates the same neurons in your brain as physical pain does. In fact, experiencing rejection can actually make you feel literally heartbroken because it activates your parasympathetic nervous system, which is responsible for things like your heart rate. Experiencing rejection from a romantic relationship, such as with a nasty breakup, can actually trigger the same responses in the brain as withdrawing from a drug addiction.

People who suffer from depression may have an even harder time with feelings of rejection, according to research. Because depression inhibits the release of opioids, or your bodys natural painkillers, depressed individuals who experience rejection may feel the hurt more acutely and for longer than non-depressed people.

Second, Remember to allow yourself to feel upset. Its fairly common for society to promote being tough or keeping a stiff upper lip, as though accepting and expressing your emotions makes you an inferior person. This is far from the truth, however. People who repress their emotions rather than allow themselves to experience them actually have more difficulty resolving their problems, and may also continue to create situations where they experience negative feelings. But how can we move forward?

Third Express your feelings.Expressing your emotions will help you accept that youre going through something painful. Rejection can create intense feelings of disappointment, abandonment, and loss, and you will probably have an initial grieving period to deal with not getting what you had hoped for. Do not belittle or bottle up your feelings.

Forth, Examin your feeling. Use this opportunity to consider the reasons that might have been behind the rejection. This is not about picking yourself apart; it's about making a sensible analysis of what you might wish to do differently next time. Whatever the reasons you find––such as avoiding people who are overly narcissistic, getting your essays turned in on time or training harder––these can give you a practical platform to work from rather than staying focused on the act of rejection itself.

Fifth, Stick to the facts. It can be easy for your self-esteem to take a nose-dive after youve been rejected, especially if that rejection was highly personal, such as romantic rejection. However, as you examine your feelings and thoughts, try to keep your statements as factual as possible. For example, rather than saying That girl I like refused to go to the prom with me because Im fat and ugly, stick to what you actually ‘know: That girl I like didnt want to go to the prom with me. Its still rejection, and it still hurts, but the second way of thinking avoids shaming or criticizing yourself, which are very unhealthy behaviors.
Rejection actually temporarily lowers your IQ. So if youre having trouble thinking through your feelings clearly, dont feel bad about it -- you actually cant help it.

Don't forget to understand it's normal. Allow yourself to feel upset.

Examine your feelings and stick to the facts. By understanding these

aspects of rejection we can calmly push thru the pain and hurt we feel.

1. What is something you learned from reading this wikihow to guide?

2. Does knowing certain facts about rejection help you cope?

3. What have you found is the best way to overcome rejection?

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