Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-in Monday July 8th, 2019
Hello and good morning everyone, hope everyone had a safe 4th.
How was your weekend? I know that it's quite common for people with trauma to be in higher alert during busy seasons. Perhaps the brining people together is something that we look at differently. I know that's the case for me. I do not enjoy being in large crowds and I try to stay home during seasons where people gather in places alot. I went to the grocery store to pick up few things on the 4th for dinner and I did not do very well. I ended up forgetting to pick up bunch of things and ended up having to eat last min planned meal for dinner.
Do you have any triggers in large crowd of people? How do you remain calm in such situation? of course, if you don't experience such, what's your advice for people like me?
Topic is optional. Tell me anything! I mean, anything!
Hope your week goes as planned and I appreciate you all for checking in. Have a good day!
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Hi there. Just wanted to say hi today. I'm not a fan of large crowds either. It makes me feel invisible and small. Maybe everyone in the crowd feel the same way. But we need to gather together to feel part of something bigger and not so alone. So we gather together to feel less alone but end up feeling more alone? I don't know, I'm confusing myself more and more as I type :) My brain is a little scattered today but I'm glad we have this community to feel less alone. I appreciate all of you
@crimsonSpruce612
I totally understand the concept of surrounding myself with people but yet feeling more lonely. You know when you're with someone engaging in real life conversation and activity, but inside you still feel misunderstood and lonely? despite what the other people in the crowds feels about me, I often also feel invisible and unnoticed. Perhaps it's because I let everyone talk over me and I make what I want to say unimportant. I think it's sometimes knowing that I matter. Thank you for sharing how you feel today and hope you have a good day
@Jackie Thank you for sharing that with me :) I relate to everything you say, especially feeling like I don't matter. But you're right you do matter. What we have to say is important even if we don't feel like it sometimes.
@Jackie
Hi
sorry I dont talk much
i feel unsafe in here
its just the whole thing so new again
i miss some people a lot
@sensitiveShade5337 just leaving you a safe hug if that
@sensitiveShade5337
Hello and thank you for checking in. I am sorry this place is no longer a place you feel safe. It's perfectly normal to feel indifferent about anything you once desired and wanted. Our circumstances change and I can see how you can feel unsafe here especially with new faces like myself. Well, nice to meet you. My name is obviously Jackie and I new here. I have lived experience in trauma and addiction and still living my life of recovery. I come here to vent sometimes but I am also here to support anyone in need. Take your time, I wil be here when you're back. *safe hug if you want them.
@Jackie
Well its perfectly fine to vent we all need it sometimes. Im just noticing who stays and who isnt, how new faces behave and how they react. Thats just me..
Been through trauma also and its hard to trust somebody
@Jackie
I guess I am different here... I enjoy being in large crowds, as long as people are not coming too close to me. I remember being at the Christmas market in Colmar once, there were too many people and I nearly panicked, I wasn't moving on my own decision, but being pushed by the crowd. I am small and I felt I was suffocating too, all the others towering above me :)
But in normal situations I feel safer in large crowds. I feel as if nobody could do me any harm as long as we are seen.
@admaiorasemper
That's interesting. I never thought of it that way. Isn't it incredible how one can share a different perspective and bring so much to your own? Next time I am in a large crowd, I will think of what you said and try my best to find comfort. Thank you for sharing that with me.
@Jackie
You are very welcome :)
I stayed in on the 4th as fireworks are not the same without my ex boyfriend.
More my anxiety grows the less I want to get out or deal with a crowd. I'm just afraid of doing or saying something stupid. I'm also afraid of getting stranded or hurt again.
@Rebekahwriter13
I feel that way too. My relationship with my partner is honestly not at its best shape. I am unsure if I am able to ever trust him again, let alone see him as someone I use to care so much. Romantic relationships are hard no matter how many times we've been there. I guess my point is, I don't know the answer to our question neither. It sucks and all we can do is let the time do its magic. I will keep you in my thoughts today. Just remember that you're not alone.
@Jackie I just hope time doesn't pass me up.
@Jackie
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