Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-in Thursday 10th August 2017

Good morning all!

Getting towards the end of another week and wondering how its been going for you. Its been a big night out at dog training for Cassi and I. She is a fearful pup, fearful of new situations, fearful of new dogs. and the fear gets expressed in lunging and barking at the stressor. So we're working in her comfort zone at a suitable distance from the other dogs. We've practised at home without the stressors and now we face the real thing. (with plenty of chicken treats in the pocket) I'm nervous too but trying not to let her know this.Well, the first dog arrives, barking loudly and she's able to "look" and 'leave it" following me and the treats that are coming her way. And so we went on, mistakes at times but that's okay, we're only learning. By the end of the session I knew she'd made a big step forward. And so did the trainer. Well done Cassi! And now a well earned rest for her.

Made me think of the marathon we've been talking about. Before we would even consider a marathon we would think of the training that was needed.Slowly at first and buiding up. Training without the pressure of the real thing. And I think we can do this too.. Our training may be practising grounding techniques, positive affirmations daily, mindful breathing exercises and meditation, a physical outlet for the grief, anger and hurt, something we enjoy. Time for something creative or light and distracting. If we have practised well its likely that when the heat comes on we will be able to draw on these resources, to use them. Maybe to refute the inner critic. But its hard work, in fact its often. exhausting. So to follow this with rest is crucial.. to give one self permission to rest. "I deserve to rest when I need it. I don't have to justify it." And most of all to remember to treat oneself with kindness and patience.

How is your day going? How is training helping you to run this marathon? Any training tips? Have you something we can celebrate with you? Maybe you want to say hi! Love to hear from you. This is your space and a safe place.