Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-in Thursday 27th of September, 2018
🌟 Hello, everyone! 🌟
It's me, H, happy to have the opportunity to be back with you all again! I had a check-in idea I thought might be fun! The Head, Heart, Feet, Spirit exercise:
Head: What I have learned today?
Heart: How do I feel about today?
Feet: What will I do with what Ive learned today?
Spirit: Who or what did I connect with today?
I look forward to reading your answers or just hearing how youre doing today!
@Heather225
Hi
Maybe I'll do the exercise later.
@practicalIdeal2007
Looking forward to reading yours!
@practicalIdeal2007
No worries! You can always just tell us how you
@Heather225
I tried to answer to questions, but I just can't get my head around it today. I'm struggling and having a hard time keeping my head above water. I feel like I can't breath or think. I don't know how to go on like this. I want everything to stop.
@Heather225
Head: What I have learned today
- I learned a really good quote in @Pixiepepper 's post about you might be the juciest peach but someone else might hate peaches
- I try to get everyone to always like me but I just have to accept some people won't
Heart: How do I feel about today?
- meh but trying to be optimistic
Feet: What will I do with what Ive learned today?
- move forward and stop wasting time & energy on people who are mean to me. I will try to focus on people who accept me instead. Try to remind myself that it's their loss for disliking me because i am a nice friend. I can't control their feelings so I should just ignore it
Spirit: Who or what did I connect with today?
- I talked to my older sister on the phone earlier idk how I feel about that
- 7cups friends
- my cat
- my grandparents even though I'm mad at them
@summertimeSamness
those sound like awesome things to acknowledge
@summertimeSamness - Ooooh....I like that quote a lot! I struggle sometimes, too, with the idea that not everyone is going to like me, but I think that the peaches thing is a good way to look at it - it's not necessarily about me, but about them and I can only control me.
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Today is a bad day
❤ That this is the reality
🧦 I'm going to salvage it
🧞♀️ Hopefully faith in humanity
@humorousBeing8966
sorry today feels like a bad day, I hope that you can find something in you day to enjoy despite the bad bits.
Safe hugs if you want them
@humorousBeing8966 Find something good in the day if you can. Glad that you're here.
@humorousBeing8966
I really love those emojis! I am sorry today is a bad day, but I think its great that you are looking into the future and hoping for change :).
I still remember the first time someone told me that 'This is reality'. No matter how much you fight and struggle it today is today and what happened has happened. It was like some kind of epiphany for me. A hard to swallow pill for sure, but it really made me determined to help shape my own future and make the best of what I have.
Really wishing you the best :)
@humorousBeing8966 - Sending you some extra hope for today <3
Head: What I have learned today?
I need to take care of myself better
Heart: How do I feel about today?
I am appreciating the sun in my garden and how it illuminates all the colours of the flowers but I'm a bit sad because I am sore and my tooth broke yesterday so that is uncomfortable too.
Feet: What will I do with what Ive learned today?
Going to try and rest up today, help prevent more soreness hopefully
Spirit: Who or what did I connect with today?
Well I've only been awake a short while so I guess connecting with my trauma fam is my first achievement of the day
@LifeIsMyCanvas Good morning! Rest and recharge today.
@Kate
I will
@LifeIsMyCanvas
Make sure you give yourself a break Canvas <3 :) You've been doing so well helping lead and I can't even tell you how much I, and I am sure others, appreciate it. Now you deserve a recharge and your garden sounnds like a lovely way to do that :) I find sitting in the garden so peaceful (I always end up getting distracted though and pruning things hehe).
*safe non threatening hugs :)*
@LifeIsMyCanvas
hey lovely... i need to treat myself better too. i hope you are going to be okay
@LifeIsMyCanvas - Proud of you for giving yourself some time to rest and I hope that the soreness goes away with a little more time and rest <3
@Heather225
Head: What I have learned today? honestly it is 10 am. I have learned when I left 3 years back a girl that was my first girlfriend said I was scared you died that last time I saw you. You were laying on the floor bleeding and cutting. ever since then I was in the hospital 3 times. i nearly cried. I didnt know i affected her that much she is cutting now and she said you taught me this and she said im sorry i never helped you . i didnt know you were in that much pain.I told her she couldnt do anything even if she tried i was so bad.I had to go but i learned that even if people dont say they are worried that they still can be that im loved and people truly care they just dont know how to help.
Heart: How do I feel about today?
honestly im quite scared because my mom is going to search me for cuts and i have fresh ones but like from 3 days ago . i told my dad then my parentd argued all because of me i didnt like it. i hated it more and more. i dont like being searched like that because im a sexual abuse survior. and a sexual assualt survior. i said i dont have to its my body its my right not to. she said your under 18 you have no rights. im kinda thankful to my ex girlfriend for talking to me. but im still struggling a ton.
Feet: What will I do with what Ive learned today?
I think i will process it and do more skills.
Spirit: Who or what did I connect with today? i connected with my ex girlfriend. i probably will not talk to many others
@Hope7879 - It sounds like today has been a pretty tough one so far and a lot of feelings are probably all jumbled up, which is understandable. You mentioned that you think you will process this more - what do you think will help you to do that? Is there anything we can do to help?
@Anomalia
I don't know atm I feel like I'm having a panic attack... I don't even know but I will be okay I'm just shaking so it's hard to type. . I feel pretty scared forever no reason I was having this all day yesterday from withdraws from not taking my night meds plus zero sleep I have slept and there is nothing wrong
@Hope7879 I just wanna give you the biggest hugs every time I see you.
@LifeIsMyCanvas
I love hugs just not when I'm in a panic attack. .. I have been having awful anxiety atm
Head: What I have learned today?
My family has an unhealthy dependancy on me despite the fact I moved out 4 years ago. I have likely enabled this. My whole family is still emotionally blackmailing me to go on holiday etc. with them despite the fact I am 24, no partners allowed. My parents almost refuse to let my sister move out and are making her more and more dependant on them. My dad can mow the lawn but is 'too tired' to drive me back home after an appointment. I feel like I am being played for a fool. Sorry I guess I already knew these things, but its the first time I am having to face facts.
Heart: How do I feel about today?
I feel okay, tired, been feeling very vunerable lately, still am.
Feet: What will I do with what Ive learned today?
No freaking idea. Currently get angry. I am so scared that if I don't do everything they want that they will no longer be there for me. Their love feels very conditional to me.
Spirit: Who or what did I connect with today?
My cats I guess. I don't feel very connected to anything right now though, feeling kinda angry - floaty ahah.
@Lilibuth12 - It sounds like you are feeling really manipulated by your family, and it's understandable to be angry and scared and frustrated and all kinds of other things about it. Love shouldn't feel conditional like that, but I know some people make it seem that way, which isn't fair. You said that today you didn't so much learn these things as have to really face the facts - what do you think changes for you in facing them? What do you feel like your options are to move forward, and how can we support you?
hey!
Head: What I have learned today?
lots of stuff in math 
and that cats are such cool animals hahah!
Heart: How do I feel about today?
i feel good. not awesome, but good and thats really cool!
Feet: What will I do with what Ive learned today?
do my homework 
i really should get it done.
Spirit: Who or what did I connect with today?
i connected with my neighbours cat and my friends in class today!
Head: What I have learned today? I've learned that sometimes buckling down works fine and I can and will fight through the nerves to get what I need done. Mistakes will happen but I refuse to dwell on them. I can beat my anxiety and I know it will be a daily battle
Heart: How do I feel about today? I feel very accomplished but also unsure because I'm feeling a lot of depersonalization
Feet: What will I do with what I
@AbejaReina I love what you wrote about what you learned. It won't always be an easy battle, but you can push through.
@AbejaReina - Those sound like some really significant breakthroughs and I'm proud of you for recognizing both that not everything will be perfect and that's okay and that you deserve a break when you need one! Hope you get that time to relax a bit!
Is there anywhere on here anymore to just post unrelated to the opening post? Or can we only post in response to that now?..
@lightVillage54 You can post anything you want! You aren't required to follow the check-in prompts. You're welcome to just tell us how you're feeling today or whatever is on your mind.
@Kate I'm not feeling so good. I made some choices recently but I'm not sure if they were the right or safest ones now.
@lightVillage54 - Would you like to talk about those choices? Or if that feels like too much right now, I can sit here with you so you're not alone, even if we don't talk.
@Anomalia if you could stay until my sisters get here I would be really grateful