Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-in Thursday 7th September 2017
Good morning all!
Its Thursday again! and here I sit with notes on various scraps of paper spread around -each says something that seemed significant at the time.Thinking, how do I put this together, how do I make something coherent out of the pieces. Just as we have fragments from our trauma, that put together in a coherent narrative enable us to heal. And "Love, patience, kindness. This is what we need."
And the next piece from Pete Walker, author of "Complex-PTSD : from Surviving to Thriving" says : 'In my work with clients repetitively traumatized in childhood, I am continuously struck by how frequently the various thought processes of the inner critic trigger them into overwhelming emotional flashbacks.' How to combat the inner critic? Walker says one way is to develop new and helpful 'muscle' with thinking proceses that will automatically kick in on being triggered. Takes loads of positive self-talk and affirmations repeated over and over for this to become effective. "I hold myself in warm positive regard, no matter how I act, think or feel." Another idea he has is to draw on positive images, like former successes and accomplishments, and images of safe and loving places and friends. And he says grieving helps to shrink the inner critic. As we grieve our childhood losses it helps to release the painful feelings.. the shame, the fear, the sadness.And in doing this we are expressing self-compassion....often in healing tears."What cannot be said will be wept."
And then to finish with. "At the end of the day, remind yourself that you did the best you could today, and that is good enough."
How is your Thursday going? How do self-talk and affirmations help you? Do you have a favorite? And any tips for shutting the inner critc up.Or pop in to say hi. Love to hear from you. This is your space and a safe place. x
@rozie
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is it wrong that the one person i want to be proud of me is the person who caused the reason for me to be proud?
I've done a heck of a lot this week and I just want someone to be proud of me, someone to be proud of me for overcoming so much in my life and yet nobody in person will tell me, and it hurts like hell.
@Tenacity37
Well good for you! accomplishing so much this week amd in your life. You deserve someone to be proud of you and I understand it hurts so much when this isn't forthcoming. Sometimes the ones we want to hear from aren't able to give us this..and it may come from others. We're proud of you and I think you can be proud of yourself too. x
"At the end of the day, remind yourself that you did the best you could today, and that is good enough."
I try to remind myself of this throughout the day in real time, as a running refutation of the inner critic (who can be quite persistent and unyielding, especially during difficult moments of struggle).
@rozie
... 😞
@sensitiveShade5337 hi Shade, how are you?
@sensitiveShade5337
Hi Shade,
We are here with you... do you want to have chat with one of us.
@rozie
no it's fine 😞
@sensitiveShade5337
Good to hear this and thanks for letting us know.x
@rozie
np
I don't want to bother you
@sensitiveShade5337
Its okay and if you want to PM me that's fine. x
@rozie
Hi ;)
@conscientiousPineapple1782
Hi,good to have you here with us. x
@rozie sorry not been around. away with hubby trying to get away from difficult dates. realised being away isnt making things easier. struggling with cliff walks and trying not to be stupid. thinking of you all.
@inventiveOrange1 Big hugs, Orange. You've been in my thoughts. We are still here for you, even when you're away. ❤️
@inventiveOrange1
Yes agree with Mellio! We've missed you and glad to have you here again with us. Hugs.x
FOR THE LOVE OF GOD MAKE THE CONSTRUCTION END!!!!!
ahem....that is all.
@BeeLeigh 
@BeeLeigh
Oh dear. sounds noisy at your place. Hope you can get a break away from it. x
I don't know what to say except "Hi!"
🙃
@KatieMoon1
Hi Katie, good to have you here. x
@KatieMoon1 Hi Katie. 🙃⛺
One more thing...
Lemmie try again..... 
Awe. Bugger it didn't work. I give up. Lol
@KatieMoon1
There's a bunny there, are you sure it didn't work? Lol
@BeeLeigh
It's a GIF. Supposed to move. It's rather cute. But I can't figure out how to get em to move!
