Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-in: Thursday, November 8th

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@SouthernFlame

I've tried to use mood charts or feelings wheels to help decribe how I'm feeling. Most of the time when I look at them the words all seem wrong. When someone asks me how I'm doing or how I'm feeling I usually say I don't know. I can say I feel okay, bad or that I don't like how I'm feeling but putting other words to it is hard and I don't know if the words I pick are accurate.

@SouthernFlame not in a good place at the minute so will just say hi and sit in the corner hiding in a blanket for a while

I use an emotion wheel that my therapist gave me, and it's really, really constructive when I feel like I can't express myself.

Please join me, @Heather225 and her bird Tuna tonight at 7 pm ET for Trauma Open Chat! Hope to see some of you there.

@SouthernFlame
hello love,
yes i have used a few. im probably a 6 right now but im managing. At the doctors she felt my stomach and went into my waist band i panicked and moved. then i had to fill stuff out about my depression. i had to lie completely about my suicidal thoughts so i wouldnt get into trouble. i said a zero that i dont have them or think about death or dying and i should have been a 3 or 4 for how much i have them. It sucks having to lie how i feel. my trauma is hurting me recently. Can I show you a poem i wrote about it?? i am trying to believe there is a god. But i did talk to my mother(not really but is more than my moms) and sarah. i was smiling so much. i love both of them so much. i am trying to feel greateful for things.

@SouthernFlame

I have trouble understanding and expressing my feelings. My therapist had mood faces and it was tough for me to tell what they were. It seems weird to me as an adult I have trouble with this. Having some difficult thoughts today.

Hello. Today I am at a 6/7 and feel like I have been climbing higher and higher. Ended up having a bad night last night so the 6/7 rating feels good compared to that.

Everyday i wake up alone afraid and helpless, to a devastated life after years of merciless stalking and harassment, waiting for word of help ive cried out for for so long to return to me humanity, dignity, respect, my precious daughter kristina and safety at home.

@SouthernFlame

I am so tired of the few but still awful trolls on this site who just use the chat rooms to purposefully distress people

They'll just say words or phrases that could clearly trigger sexual assault survivors, and laugh about how they can pass the censors

Don't get me wrong I think sex can definitely be discussed for mental health in a good way but that's not why they do it

They know what they're doing even when ppl blatantly say "Hey we r in this room/on this site to be in a good mental state and you are reminding me of said trauma or mocking it" and they don't care

Then there's the neo-nazi jokes, for the love of God

I have seen so many trolls joke about different genocides

Today even saw jokes about the sterilization of Jewish women without their consent

And it just kept going with sex, genocide jokes, homophobia

A) what even are those people, how does one lack such basic empathy?? and how are there so many of them? it's disgusting how are they living real lives

B) how do the censors not get it

C) I understand mods can't always be there and everything but dang every day there is at least 1 chat room like the one above just awful

That's the 1 main issue I have with 7cups is the trolls like that who make the site the opposite of what it's intended for

And yea I'm getting personally heated, and im glad I am bc I am so tired it is amazing the amount of men and people I've been around in my life who have openly joked about violence against women, and rape Or genocide/sterilization jokes , how us queers are ruining the world, how disabled people have no use how poor people are useless and dumb

All these things and more and they're "just jokes" to some people, but I am not overarching when I say that is a pathetic joke.

And i think people want me to be all calm and empathetic to these jokesters or sometimes actual neo-nazis and if I'm not in a crazy feminist in their eyes

Believe me I have been calm, most of my life, I do have empathy even for those disgusting people

But just why do we live in a society where it ok for someone to openly joke about something horrible that happened to me, my family, my community or my ancestors?

Oh rape didnt happen to anyone in the room where they made the jokd, it happened to me. Oh, domestic abuse didn't happen to anyone in the room, it happened to my mom and me. Oh, no one in the room has been discriminated for being queer, we were. Oh, no one in the room has a disability, I do. Oh, people dont get experimented on, well my family was. Oh, no one in the room was burned so we can joke about it? My family was

We exist. And our terrible memories aren't a joke. After everything the world has taken from us i will not let them take that too.

At least let us have our pain. For the love of God why do their jokes have to be so cruel?

And then I think people may be like "ugh stop harping on the past, on the holocaust, on who abused you 4 years ago, everything you have that's bad you don't want us to label you like that right? Get over it"

Well let me tell you I've seen people "get over it" they didn't feel like they could stand up for themselves when people made threats or just jokes they didn't talk about it. And I wish every day that their lives were not as trapped as they were and are.

Jokes take away peoples lives. Little parts of it maybe but it is just another punch in the gut every day that I have to sit silent about and be mature and calm and take it and chalk it up to "they're just immature" and move on with my day like nothing happened. Go on with my day and work really hard so I overcome what people like them expect of us, so no one can put me in a box just for the way I was born and exist.

That was long and I know not everyone who says certain words are all the same