Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Forum Checkin - Sunday 26th March 2017
Hello you lovely people out there! yes you! dont go looking over your shoulder wondering if Im talking about LOL How have you been? Whats happening in your world? What is one thing you can build into your weekend, that allows you to have some sense of enjoyment or fun? Fun can be very therapeutic!
Healing from traumatic experiences is one of self discovery and personal self growth, where you can rediscover who you are, and grow into that strong survivor that you are. Sometimes you may even question why you are bothering, is it worth it. YES, it is! Because your worth it. This space is yours, to share whats happening in your world, to say Hi, to let us know if you need some extra support, to share the good days, bad days and inbetween days. This is a safe and supportive daily checkin space for our members. Remember to be kind to yourselves, and take some time out for you if needed.
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Hi, i'm Sam, i'm 18 years old now, but i was 17 when my father past away (2th april 2016), it was very traumatic cause I was very attached to him, he always took care of me like i still his little girl. I was having problems like crying a lot for no reason, before it happened.
i don't really know already but i think i might be depressed, why? well, today i cut myself, and it's not the first time at all, my cry is always really heavy and painfull, i feel so empty all the time, so i decided i need help cause i'm afraid it just get worst and worst. But i have a communication problem, so i can't just say this to a friend or a family member, it's really hard for me to say how i feel to someone i know. So today i decided to join this community and i'm having good feelings about it. I actually just need to share this to someone because i couldn't take to hold this to myself anymore.
I also wanna thank everyone for the initiative you're all really kind <3 .
@samnumber1 Hey Sam. I am so sorry to hear about your Dad. I can imagine you must be in such a grief being very attached to your father. I am disheartened by hearing about you cutting yourself. I hope you are fine and taking care of the wound. I wish you would. I can understand things are difficult but they can be managed. Next time you get a thought try using positive coping techniques like breathing techniques.
I am glad as a first positive step you have joined us. And I can assure you there are many who are going through similar things and coping with them too. We all here are there with you. In case you have an overwhelming feeling and you need to talk you can get to talk to any of the listeners here including me. And never again feel alone. Take good care. You can figure this out too because you are awesome.
@samnumber1 Hi Sam!! I am so very sorry about your father. I want you to feel a supportive understanding hug!!!!! I get it because my mother died two years ago. I'm glad you came to this site. So many listeners and counselors are here to listen and support you. I hope you will take care of yourself and really believe and know your cared about. I'm praying for you! Your taking good first steps to work on your grief and struggles. You're very brave. I'm glad to know you now!! I'm praying for you today!!! Here is another HUG so you know you are not a lone!
@samnumber1 Hi Sam, so good to see you here and that your reaching out for some help and support. Im really sorry to hear about your dad. That must feel very difficult for you given you mentioned how attached you were to him? Was his death sudden or expected? I hear that you turned to self harm as a way of coping with your loss, and though this is a coping mechanism Im wondering if you would be willing to consider other ways of managing the very difficult feelings you are going through? Have you thought of any ways you could perhaps try to cope with feeling the need to hurt yourself? Would you find it beneficial when you feel like this to perhaps use the forums to get your feelings out in a less destructive way, or perhaps keep a journal at home? would music or watching a movie help as a form of distraction or calling a friend? Have you self harmed previous to this, or is the first time you have turned to this way of coping? What makes you feel unable to talk with family and friends?
Losing someone you love or feel close to, is very difficult, especially if its a parent and everyone grieves in their own unique way. One of the things that can help someone going through grief is to be able to talk with someone with whom they can share their feelings and whats going on for them. Im wondering if you have a good friend that you feel safe to talk with? Im glad you found us here :)
Hello @dancingRainbow45, i see you have some questions so maybe i can answer some. My father was diagnosed with cancer: a very dangerous one, it was so sudden that he didn't even live to know which cancer he had, my mother omitted the gravity of things so I was very surprised by the death and it happen in less than a mounth (15 days). I live a normal life, i have friends who love me very much and probably would help me. When i started to cut myself i was dating, so my ex-boyfriend help me a lot with that, but then we broke up. I have actually shared this with my best friend few mouths ago but she got so desperate that i had to smooth things out and pretend it didn't happen anymore. Thanks for asking <3
You're right about trying other things to deal with it, but sometimes is the only one effective :(
My mom is having a hard time to deal with things so i don't want to concern her even more with my problems 
. And i don't want to bother my friends.
I took three hours out of my day to go to my gramma's birthday party, and now I have to write my paper for history but out of 39 assignments I had due this weekend I'm down to only TWO left!! 😁
@BeeLeigh You got this!
I'm watching movies, spending time with family, and finishing up my assignments for the third marking period of my senior year. 😊
@lavendermoonlight Whats the last good movie you watched lavender? Am glad your day is good for you today
@dancingRainbow45 Tangled, it's one of my favorites
@lavendermoonlight "Beauty and the Beast" was so beautiful. I recommend it!!!
@lavendermoonlight Will have to look that one up and the one KLM mentioned, beauty and the beast :)
@lavendermoonlight Sounds great!
My History paper and my song description report for Music Appreciation both had the same deadline tonight. I got the History paper turned in with 35mins to go, and I hadn't even started the Music one yet, but I got it turned in with exactly four minutes to the deadline! I did all 39 assignments this weekend, and I went to a classical music concert on Friday for the concert report I have due in a few weeks, and I went to my gramma's for her birthday today! I have no idea how I got it all done, but I did 😁 thank you, @agreeableKite4304, for your assistance as my homework organizer and my distraction and the one who pulls me out of my head best and who also made me have a personal dance party 😝 you always brighten my day ❤️