Traumatic Experiences Community Daily check-in Wednesday January 9th 2019
Hi all!! Sorry if I caused any worry by not posting my check in as soon as I landed. I was just too tired; When I saw my bed when I got home it just called to me and I had no choice. I'm so sorry if I caused any undue worry though <3
Just a shorter check in today. How are you feeling? How are your feelings of safety being affected today? What are the coping strategies you use to combat your feelings of unsafeness?
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@Hoxenos it happens hox
@CaringBrit I was just joking that this week Trauma has a bit of a sleeping through things problem haha. But hey, at least it means we can sleep!!
@Hoxenos yh lol why who else sleeps through stuff lols
How are you feeling? I'm doing pretty good. I went to the dentist yesterday, I was so nervous that he was going to have to pull my tooth, but he was able to save it and he drill with out pain killers and it didn't hurt. I love this dentist.
How are your feelings of safety being affected today? I feel safe at home, but online its confusing. Last night I said that this year I was going to focus on myself and my health. I am not looking for a realtionship but just friends. Now these guys are coming out of woodwork and hitting on me. . . it makes me very uncomfortable. I just want friends that I simply talk to and joke around about. (Even my neighbor keeps pushing more than innocent stuff and it's not right, I see him like a brother.)
What are the coping strategies you use to combat your feelings of unsafene? I stay direct with those I talk to. I do not lie or try to beat around the bush. I also try to focus on myself. I can only control me, not what is going on outside.
@Rebekahwriter13
Hey that's awesome about the dentist! Tooth care is something that can get really overlooked when dealing with our health and you found a dentist that's the right fit for you, that's awesome.
Boundaries online can be so difficult. Since in a lot of ways you're "available" all the time, people can make assumptions that it means you're available for them all the time. I'm glad that you can stick it out and assert your boundaries with them. I know that it really sucks while you're doing it, especially if they try to guilt you, but remember you're doing what's best for you and there's nothing to feel bad about in that <3
@Hoxenos I realized how important dential care is when my brother had an heart infection that started at an impacted tooth. He now had a cow valve and amputee on his left as it got worst. . . He had endocardious, a normal, health person with it, has 6 week IV antibitics for while he had heart issues before had so it was much worst.
@Rebekahwriter13 Yeah it's crazy how dental hygiene can escalate. I hope your brother is ok <3
@Hoxenos He is doing well enough to think he always right and constantly argue with me. Sighs. We live near one of the best hospitals for heart patients, so he had awesome care.
@Hoxenos
I turn out to be quite ill physically and should expect to have a good bit of pain for about a month. However, I am not feeling overwhelmed or unsafe as a result. I am actually doing better than I was a week ago and am glad I reached out to get medical care.
@ReallyRuth Yay for reaching out to get the care you need! It sucks that you're unwell, but perhaps the certainty of knowing what's wrong and getting treatment is a better state to be in than the uncertainty before you get medical help. I'm so proud of you for getting the help you need and I wish you a dteady recovery <3
@Hoxenos
Thanks. Yes, I definitely feel better knowing what is going on and knowing I am doing what I can to take care of myself. It also makes it easier to be gentle with myself for being where I am.
@ReallyRuth I'm glad to hear you're feeling better than last week. One step at a time. I hope you continue to feel better slowly but surely!
@Kate
Thank you, Kate! I am trying.
@Hoxenos
Your safety and wellbeing are important to us. I am glad you arrived safely and rest is surely needed. 
@emotionalMaple9419 Thanks Maple <3 How are you feeling today?
@Hoxenos
I have been feeling depressed and anxious.
@emotionalMaple9419 Are there any reasons for that that you feel like sharing or talking out? We're here if you do and if you don't, know that we're here for you <3
@Hoxenos
I am feeling a little better, but still so many things running through my head.
Finally be home where I am safe is a good thing. I keep having memories of things that were not safe and it causes me to spiral and hide and not know what to do. I don't know what to do when that happens. It's all so much more vivd after being back in the place it all started.
@practicalIdeal2007
I was worried about you over the holidays in that atmosphere, I'm happy that you're back home safe now. Do you have any strategies for survival in triggering environments? Or perhaps has this holiday season taught you or cleared anything up for you? Perhaps with boundaries or limits? What are your needs that you need to respect?
Hi hox, welcome back
for some reason if i'm alone for long periods i start to feel unsafe, like today. i'm not sure why that is, i just get nervous for no real reason. to cope with it i usually just breathe or meditate and remind myself that i am safe, and that usually works.
@crimsonSpruce612
Why do you start to feel unsafe after being alone for a long period? Perhaps along with the meditation you can try purposeful relaxation where you go head to toe relaxing each muscle, especially in the face and the neck. I find we hold a lot of tension there when we're afraid or anxious and sometimes letting that go reminds us that we're actually safe.
@Hoxenos
I'm not sure, really. i just tend to get anxious when i'm alone and it increases the longer i'm alone. thanks for the relaxation tips. i've noticed i clench my jaw a lot so focusing on relaxing it could help.
@crimsonSpruce612 Hey spruce! Are you feeling any better today?
@Kate
hi kate. yes, I am feeling much better today. Thanks for checking in, it really means a lot to me
@crimsonSpruce612 Glad to hear! I hope you have a good weekend!
@Kate Thanks, you too!
