Traumatic Experiences Daily Check In - Thursday, February 8, 2018
Hi Everyone,
How are you today? Any particular plans as we approach the weekend?
Thinking about treatment and support. What has your experience been with various types of treatment options and support? I'm thinking about the follow:
Inpatient
Intersive Outpatient
Outpatient
Support Groups
Had a great experience with any of these?
Would love to hear from you!
KristenHR
I dunno how to cope with accumulated emotions that comes out.It's so much pain and hurt.It's just overwhelming.
@Morfo66
I'm glad you've shared. All those emotions are quite painful when they come out. How are you managing? Anything in particular that helps?
@KristenHR
Just giving myself time and comforting myself in ways that can make me happy or at least not as sad helps a lot in moments like this and the support from people I trust gives me a lot of strength, their love and seeing that I don't do this just only for myself.
@KristenHR The only types of treatments I have had in life was I used to attend therapy because of what my mother did, but I don't know if it was really helpful. It was a long time ago, and I was just a child then. The support groups on here, however, I find those extremely helpful. They always make me feel better. My plans for the weekend sound like I'm going to be baking a lot of things with my boyfriend. I'm excited. Also I need to research stuff for college.
@FangsInsanity
Thanks for sharing your experience! I'm glad you find the support groups very helpful. What do you want to study?
@KristenHR I'm currently pursuing a degree in the English/Humanities.
@KristenHR
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@melliotm
Thank you! How are you today?
I am really anxious today. I'd been helping someone else the last few days, which has drained my energy. Plus I haven't had anywhere near enough sleep (6 hours sleep in 48 hours). I also don't have enough money to live on, because I lent people money that haven't paid me back when they said they would. Although I managed to get my application for PIP in, and attend my face-to-face assessment, all this has taken a toll on me. I also need to go to the chemist which is a 10 minute walk to get my medication today, and I keep trying, but I'm afraid to leave the house. I know this is just a temporary set-back due to stress, but it's still hard to deal with.
Regarding treatment, my G.P. is arranging for me to get trauma-focused CBT. I'm not sure when exactly that will happen though. I've had CBT before; but that was before I was diagnosed, so I'm hoping this will be more helpful. Anyway, that's part of why I'm back here on 7 Cups after a break from it. I know the support here can be helpful. <3
Also, without going into too much detail: one of my childhood friends took her abuser to court and he wasn't even given a custodial sentence. Even though there was proof he abused at least 2 very young children. He only got 3 years probation, 3 years community service, and 3 years on the sex registry. I need to write her back but I'm too upset to know what to say. So yeah, everything feels like shit right now. That case, if it went well, would have set legal precedent. It seems like even with evidence we will barely just any semblance of justice. I'm so upset and I wish I could just take drugs or drink, but I don't have any money anyway, so I can't. I need to write my friend back, and I really want to, but I am so upset that I don't know what to say. 
@resourcefulPond1641
What devastating news to learn compared to all the trauma the behavior causes. What would you want said to you if it was you? Sometimes I've found that just listening and hearing someone helps as much as what can be said otherwise.
@resourcefulPond1641
It sounds like you have a lot on your plate with everything. I'm sorry your anxiety and lack of sleep are creating so many problems right now. It's so tough to go out when you feel you can't. What have you found that helps, if anything, during these times?
I'm so glad you have been referred for counseling that is trauma focused. That is so good to hear. I hope it will help you a ton! I'm glad you're back for the support now. I know support has made a vast difference for me in managing things when I was dealing with them.
@KristenHR Thank you! 
@KristenHR
ive been in inpatient about a year ago i was in it but i was in impatient for 2 years all together now im in homebased... right now im in a therapy called dbt .. im in truama based too im in it for self harm and suicide attempts but im going to give this a try too
@imsorryitry
Thank you for sharing your experience. Do you find the DBT helpful? I'd love to hear later how everything is going after more time. I hope it goes really well for you.
@KristenHR
thank you ... you seem like a wonderful person js and i hope one day we can talk in pm
I have had a few counselor which i didnt find helpful until i finally found one that helped me come up with a good plan, however all the while my family inviornment was really wearing on me! I also had a psychiatrist which stressed me out alot! Ive been hospitalized where i reached an all time low but some people there ended up helping me. I dont have any of the above anymore and have been to nervous to go to group therapy as well as feeling unworthy to attend one.
@Compassion21
Thanks so much for sharing your experience. What about going to group therapy makes you nervous? I know that this has been an issue for me in the past - feeling unworthy. But we are worth the effort we provide ourselves and allow ourselves. The old messages of not being worthwhile is not true. It was something we were communicated whether verbally or non-verbally by those who were inappropriate and treated us poorly - even abusing or tortuing us. Please don't gie up on support and treatment because of the old messages
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It makes me nervous to share my private life and mabey be judged. I wasnt able to find a group therapy near me last i checked either.
@Compassion21
Thanks so much for sharing your experience. What about going to group therapy makes you nervous? I know that this has been an issue for me in the past - feeling unworthy. But we are worth the effort we provide ourselves and allow ourselves. The old messages of not being worthwhile is not true. It was something we were communicated whether verbally or non-verbally by those who were inappropriate and treated us poorly - even abusing or tortuing us. Please don't gie up on support and treatment because of the old messages
i'm hurting. not physically but emotionally. i didnt know where else to turn to except my "trauma family"
lots of bad news lately. and i know i have to deal with this avoidant personality stuff or whatever it is that makes me keep myself locked in the house. my mom needed me today. i could hear her begin to cry again - as we were hanging up the phone...because she invited me out and i gave her an excuse. i just cant leave my home. i hung up and cried too. she needs me now. i cant be another burden for her and everyone. tired of this grief and its not going anywhere with this recent diagnoses for my family member but i cant be the source of more pain.
im just lost. lost within myself. how do i stop this?
@themainjane
Oh Jane, my heart goes to you on hearing how you are hurting emotionally... this pain really hurts. And with all the bad news in your family too.Its so much, so much grief, and you're feeling lost.We can all feel lost at times in our lives and we need each other. Glad that you have turned to your "trauma family". We are here with you.
Thinking about you and your mum,sounds like you need to see each other, and wondering if its possible for her to come to you meantime. Be gentle with yourself.. hugs.
Today was uh...decent? Were supposed to get over a foot of snow, so the stores were INSANE tonight!!! Like, seriously though, we live where it does this every freaking year. This isnt new. It happens here. Thats why we have extra snow day make up days built into our school years! I just needs toilet paper and my otc stomach pills. But nooooo....stood in line for about 45mins!! 🙄😒🤦🏼♀️
OH! Also, Ive had experience with inpatient (which included forced group sessions), partial hospitalization programs, outpatient, and one on one. I hated all of it. I love my current therapist, and there were two other people I liked. But thats it. And the inpatient programs have so many people coming and going throughout the day, Ive dealt with a crap load of psych people over the years. I would never recommend inpatient to anyone. They always made me feel worse. Its incredibly dehumanizing.
@KristenHR Whoops, I think I'm late and I probably should say something in the 9th Jan check in but I don't see it so I'll just do both :p
I've never been to any of those things for treatment or support. I haven't been to anyone actually, makes me realise how out-of-touch I am. I would go to the group stuff if I could but I can't. I'm doing okay today. Day before yesterday I made a big mistake and I'm gonna have to pay for it now but yesterday was okay-ish. Not too great.
I live in Holland. My toughest times are normally first thing in the morning. Usually the daily check-in doesn't appear until much later in my day. Is there no way these could be automated? I often really need to talk and sometimes it seems stupid to do what I am doing now and post it in the previous day's discussion.
Today I feel really weak and ill and low and fed up. I think it is from being alone too much. Now tonight I have someone to go and see and some things to do, but from two days of nothing I feel so low I don't really feel well enough to go out. I am going to go anyway. But I am tired of feeling this way.