Traumatic Experiences Forum daily Check In - Friday 10th March 2017
Hello, all you lovely people. :) Hows today going for you? How's your week been? Good, bad, inbetween? Healing from traumatic experiences is hard going, its hard work and it can be very much a rollercoaster of a journey. Sometimes you may even question why you are bothering, is it worth it. YES, it is! Because your worth it. Its important to always look after yourself and your needs and to take time out for you and practise some self care when needed. How have you been managing to show a little TLC to yourselves recently? This space is yours, to share whats happening in your world, to say Hi, to let us know if you need some extra support, to share the good days, bad days and inbetween days. This is a safe and supportive daily checkin space for our members. Remember to be kind to yourselves, and take some time out for you if needed.
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The morning is not off to a good start. I don't know if I should try and find a Listener or someone in Relationships or Addictions forum or ?
I don't know if I should call a rehab or an attorney or my counselor?
Maybe I should let it go? I'm trying to problem solve as best I can but I'd really like some input on whether I'm doing the right thing.
@themainjane
He's drunk. Didn't stop drinking till 6am. I wouldn't let him take my vehicle. His engine blew the other day so we're down to one.
I drove him there but he really probably does need a vehicle to make it through the day. God only knows with the customers etc. He's still so drunk.
@themainjane
I'm beginning to feel less okay. 2nd small altercation with my spouse this morning. I finally called my mom and told her things were bad and she told me not to overreact.
I called a detox and they said they'd take him after screening but he won't go.
I'm locked out of my house presently. I don't want to live this way anymore.
@themainjane It sounds like your in a very difficult situation with your partner and things sound pretty bad for you. What do you feel would need to change in order for things to feel more bearable for you?
@dancingRainbow45
The chaos has to end. He has to quit drinking because I'm exhausted.
just now getting home. Drained. I called my counselor. I don't normally like to do that sort of thing. I even called my dad after things went pretty poorly with my mom. They both just ask me if I'm taking my meds. They know he drinks too much - the whole town knows. Why is it always my fault?
I wonder if it would even make a difference if they knew how their precious son-in-law really acted?
Kinda stirs up old wounds but I'm just too tired to even care.
@themainjane If ever you need to talk to a listener Jane please reach out. There's always listeners who are available to talk to you if you need. :)
I finally found my way here, so today is going good.
@lightstar7 Good to have your here Star? Hows the day going for you?
@dancingRainbow45
Could be worse, so so far so good :) Thank you for asking.
I had a bad few days. This morning feels lighter though.
@KLM3278 Try not letting the bad days beat you down. Im pleased that things are feeling a little lighter for you and maybe think of things you may find useful to help you get through the days that dont seem as good for you. Perhaps think ahead of time of how to prepare for those days and practise things you feel could help you when they hit?
@dancingRainbow45 Well I ate a giant piece of chocolate cake yesterday!! I know I shouldn't have but IT WAS GOOD!!!!!
@KLM3278 And where was mine!!!!? :) You mean you ate all of that on your own without a thought for little ole me over here !!! Well! haha
@dancingRainbow45 It's true. I did! Hahaha! And it was amazing!!! :)-
@KLM3278 ppffttt! :)
The body keeps the score. I haven't read that book but I've seen it and that phrase is about how I woke up feeling today.
@BeeLeigh The body can keep the score for sure, but sometimes people say its also about willpower and the mind, so perhaps the mind can be used as a powerful tool for change?
@dancingRainbow45
My mind isn't very powerful when it's half asleep and barely knows nothing is actually happening.
