my trauma bond with my mum
it took me getting horribly sick for my mum to see that I was not well and really listen to me and not be so harsh in her words and how she wants to express her self to me. Yes I am an adult with a child to raise. she is learning how to gentle parent with me since that is the only way I will properly talk to her. She has her own trauma and which has made us distant all these yrs even while living together. It does take time and all I can do is live my life and take care of what is needed while I build my life/career. It may take a while yet I have faith yet will not be disrespected along the way.
We have been more friendly since then I just take it day by day cause she switches up.
@Lenaye8
i think at a point a child and parent need to redefine the roles to be more equal when the child is now an adult ..... it has helped my relationship ...... i realize people have had trauma and issues that many cannot understand having not gone through it but i was always taught and still believe the past does not HAVE to define you or shape you ...... you have the ability to respond differently.....
I hope your day by day works but in long run the situation where a patent and child have friction living together long term may not be best idea