How to deal with?

Hello.

I've had many vivid dreams in the past too, ones that resulted waking up in sweat, and troubles catching my breath. They were so vivid and scary, that at most times, if I'm woken in the middle of the night, I'll be afraid to fall back asleep. I've also had multiple flashbacks of traumas, that went on repeat. I remember I once had a dream/nightmare, that lasted for 10 days straight! Every night, it would be the same story plot, but with different outcomes each night. The story plot was something that "really" happened in my trauma. Unfortunately, with my case, it had never been resolved. I just somehow ended up stop dreaming about it, years down the road.

In your situation, it sounds like the assault from your exes (boyfriend and friend) is still something close to heart, something that is still fresh in your mind and has happened recently. Actually, in your case, it might be easier to deal with (compared to mine, that has been decades ago). Do know that it is not something about you that they are targeting. It is not your problem, there is nothing wrong with you. It is just that there are some people who feel pleasure, teasing others that seem weaker than them.

If you're still in touch with them, stand up for yourself when they attack you with assault. Or make yourself stronger (self-growth), show them that you're not someone who can easily be made fun of. It sounds like these exes aren't someone to dwell over for a long time. For someone who is abusive in all aspects of life, it is definitely someone to let go and put in the past (and keep it there).

You do know deserve to be treated with disrespect. These people are toxic in your life. These flashback dreams can gradually disappear after you've dealt with the issue at hand. You can do this! Hang in there~

@MrsSlimShady