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Self Esteem Wall building challenge!

User Profile: Rain45
Rain45 June 26th, 2017

Wall of Self-Esteem

Often as Survivors we build up our walls, our defenses to keep people out because we have suffered trauma that has left us unable to trust others, fearful of being hurt again, unable to let anyone close to us. Walls at times can be good, but more often than not, they can turn from something that acted as a protection or means of safety, to something which becomes self-defeating, isolating and something which often makes people feel even worse about themselves.

With that im mind I have a challenge for you!!! To build a 'wall of Self-Esteem'!!! Self-esteem is often shot to pieces for many people who have suffered traumatic experiences and so I challenge you to find one good thing about yourself per day, per week, per month and to submit your positive affirmation about yourself and add to the "Self-Esteem Wall"

The idea behind this is to start to begin to see the good qualities we have, instead of reinforcing the negative messages you hold about yourselves, and to begin to see all the things that other people are able to see in you. Finding a positive thing to say about yourselves probably won't come easy to you, even if others can see what you can't. And so because of this, this challenge is two fold. To find that one good thing about yourself to contribute to the wall, and for others too to submit their affirmation about you!!! If someone submits a positive affirmation about you, you may not believe it, perhaps will even want to dismiss it instantly, but its also a reality that another person holds about you smiley Each affirmation will have your username attached to it, so that you can see all the good things about yourselves that you have submitted.

On your tough days, which you will get when healing from trauma, it can be hard to hold onto the positive things that we can see within ourselves and so the wall we act as a reminder to you all, that even on your really bad days, those good things still exist about you :) They can't be taken away or erased

I will post an imgur image for you to see a rough idea of how this will work. What we hope is that over time, this wall gets bigger and bolder and full of all the wonderful things about you all smiley Trauma can often feel as though it has erased anything good that existed prior to the traumatic experiences themselves, but that good still resides in you, no matter how bad you feel about yourselves.

*Each time one of you submits your affirmation, the image will be updated regularly to show the submissions that have been added to the wall.

We hope over time to build a massive self esteem wall, full of colour, full of positive statements about us as Survivors of Trauma. I hope you will take part and begin to see a little good within you which is often very difficult when your in the midst of trying to cope with your experiences and how its left you feeling about yourself.smiley

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User Profile: Compassionatelistener108
Compassionatelistener108 January 5th, 2018

I believe everyone in treating everyone with compassion, kindness and respect.

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User Profile: Rain45
Rain45 OP January 5th, 2018

@Compassionatelistener108

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User Profile: Compassionatelistener108
Compassionatelistener108 January 6th, 2018

@dancingRainbow45

Can I ask a HUGE favor 😬?

My self esteem mantra is crushing me as I inadvertently repeated a word 🤦🏼‍♀️🙅‍♀️. Oh, the irony of it all. Next time you update it with another quote, will you be my grammar guru?

Thank you, Rain 💛☺️🐶🐾🐾

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User Profile: Rain45
Rain45 OP January 6th, 2018

@Compassionatelistener108 Of course lol I nearly did but I didnt want to take your words away from you wink

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User Profile: Compassionatelistener108
Compassionatelistener108 January 6th, 2018

@dancingRainbow45

Lol, I hope it made you laugh today as well. Some of my errors are just fine when all is seen from a positive perspective ❤️

Thank you for fixing it today ☺️ Now I can nap peacefully 😴

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User Profile: Rain45
Rain45 OP January 6th, 2018

@Compassionatelistener108 Will do smiley

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User Profile: wontwakewontsleep
wontwakewontsleep January 6th, 2018

I just want to reemphasize that I love this project. Such a brilliant way to visualize our self-esteem, and it also shows that when we share our courage together we can build something strong and beautiful.

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User Profile: Rain45
Rain45 OP January 6th, 2018

@wontsleepwontwake Well said wontsleep. Its something new to try and also by having a statement with the persons name next to it, on bad days it can be a good reminder that these things exist and cannot be taken away from despite having a bad day smiley

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User Profile: Rebekahwriter13
Rebekahwriter13 February 15th, 2018

I am honest.

User Profile: exuberantAcres9129
exuberantAcres9129 August 25th, 2018

Im still working on finding a good quality of mine indecision

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User Profile: KLM3278
KLM3278 August 25th, 2018

@exuberantAcres9129

That's GREAT!! Keep going toward your goal ❤️

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User Profile: GoldHallow
GoldHallow January 27th, 2019

I am trustworthy.

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User Profile: UnicornsR4Real
UnicornsR4Real July 6th, 2020

@GoldHallow

Tbis is my favorite. It's so important to trust yourself.

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User Profile: UnicornsR4Real
UnicornsR4Real July 6th, 2020

@UnicornsR4Real

How do you edit posts? I misspelled this.

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