Could I be doing this wrong?
I repulse everyone. I reach out for help, listeners leave, sometimes I get blocked without a warning, my friends get uncomfortable and stop talking, my forum posts hardly get any support, I get completely ignore in support groups if I say hi or ask a question. I don't mean anything bad, I don't push boundaries, I don't say inappropriate things. What am I doing wrong? My burdens are extremely heavy and I don't know how to find support. It doesn't only happen here, it's everywhere. Is it just bad luck? Is something wrong with me or how I talk? The voice in my head(not an actual voice I am hearing) tells me the worst things you can imagine every time this happens. It's making me not want to reach out, not try. If I don't try I know I will lose my fight. What should I do? What's wrong with me?
@patientAcai8660
I'm sorry that this has been your experience.
All groups are meant to be supportive and welcoming to everyone.
But I cannot speak fof anyone else here.
Your feelings are valid and they do matter.
I hope you feel heard!
🤗💚
@Amanda84
Thank you Amanda, for reading and being kind to me. I am not angry at people, there might be some sort of explanation. I can't help but have doubts is all. Can this be just coincidence? Because if I am doing anything wrong I need to be aware of it and start working on changing it.
Thanks for the hugs.
@patientAcai8660
Sometimes listeners sadly for one reason or another decide they are not a good fit.
But it's never about you personally.
Sometimes people just don't connect and that's fine.
It's about finding a balance .
Sometimes it can be overwhelming for both members and listeners to find a balance of time 🤗💚
@Amanda84
I understand what you mean.
I think you are correct, I usually struggle to fit in and connect with people. I will try my best to motivate myself to keep searching for it. Thank you for encouraging me and not leaving me on my own to wonder. It encourages me a little to keep going.
@patientAcai8660
A pleasure 💚
@patientAcai8660 I hear sometimes there can be bad luck with listeners. Some people like to read the reviews and get recommendations for a good listener. I have put some posts that didn’t get a good response as well. It could be bad luck too. I don’t see anything wrong with what you have written here.
@adventurousBranch3786
Thank you for your kindness in reassuring me, means a lot.
I started questioning myself a lot lately and this situation didn't help. Exposure a risk to take for sure. I did have similar experiences in the past with listeners but when we are more vulnerable it feels more hurtful.
I would like to reach out to listeners and let them know that I am thankful for what they are doing, at the same time please let people know what is going on before you have to step away, as it can be damaging.
